“The ear that listens to life-giving reproof will dwell among the wise. Whoever ignores instruction despises himself, but he who listens to reproof gains intelligence." Proverbs 15:31-32
You probably have never taken accountability or "reproof" very well. Maybe this is because you would rather be right the first time. But ultimately, you shy away from accountability because you receive it as "I've failed" and then translate it into "I'm stupid and ashamed." The reality is that accountability is not shaming, it is "life-giving." Therefore learning to have an "ear that listens to life-giving reproof" will make you "wise."
"Reproof" is accountability that comes from surrounding yourself with wise men and inviting them to speak into your life. To engage in accountability, it appears you need a couple of things. A humble character that does not "ignore instruction," and a willing attitude that will "listen to reproof." And notice the payoff - "intelligence" and "dwelling among the wise."
Stop ignoring the instruction and start listening and applying the feedback of wise people in your life. A deficit of accountability is no different than self-hatred; it's "despising yourself." Do yourself a favor today and seek out the life-altering words of someone willing to offer you accountability. It may be a friend informing you of a bad habit or a colleague who can give you some valuable insight. Being accountable will make you a better man and have a noticeable impact on all those around you.
DO THIS: Ask someone for feedback and apply it.
PRAYER: God, help me let down my guard enough that I can hear feedback from those who are want to give it. May I listen attentively and differently today. Give me the courage to do the hard work.