The Direction of Anger


Here is your call to action today:

  • Determine: a time frame for addressing your anger, from 5-seconds to 5-hours, but set a time-frame that will challenge you.
  • Declare: this below.
The Anger Challenge with Vince Miller

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101 thoughts on “The Direction of Anger

  1. Robert Lafond says:

    Lately I am often going to sleep with unfinished anger and frustration with my wife and kids. I resolve to work towards closure on these frustrations

  2. Chris says:

    I can’t always put a time on it but the challenge for me is to deal with it in a time frame that is responsible & effective.

  3. Bob says:

    Within 5 minutes. This has been a “thorn” since pre-teen years and best I can determine triggered by loss of father at age 10. Mostly, anger directed at self and wife (considered self) but ultimately recognize that it is at God and not fully recognizing His Sovereignty over my life in all things. Need daily practice of dying to self and letting the Spirit live through me, acknowledging that He is in control of all things, even every little detail that occurs throughout the day. Easy to say, hard to practice.

  4. Bobby says:

    Starting each morning along with my time with the Lord I will include a few minutes or more to give focus towards my issue of anger.

  5. Jamie Adams says:

    I know this will sound bad but its my wife. Instead of responding to her in anger Im going to remain silent and talk to her when I am calm.

  6. Damien Wetzel says:

    Dedicating prayer time before my devotional each morning to turning my day over to the Lord asking for God’s wisdom throughout the day

  7. Bernd says:

    Depending on the situation I might need less or more time to calm down and get my mind cleared and approach the situation in an altered mindset. It might be helpful to to talk to others to set a new perspective. – Defenitely it is essential to get things cleared and not to let anger destroy a relationship.

  8. Kris Umayam says:

    I haved used inflammatory word during an argument and the argument definitely escalates after those words. Just listening and reading the the Bible verse made me realize that. I’m going to take 10 minutes for this challenge to address the problem and anger.

  9. James Gould says:

    I pledge to reduce my anger outburst substantially. These tools will help immensely. The old saying “ PAUSE WHEN AGITATED “ will be much easier now. Because you are right, foul words immediately come out of the mouth. That is the sign to pause….. and develop a more beautiful response. But I am sure there will still be something that I have to apologize for. But of course do not let the sun go down angry.

  10. Jeremy White says:

    I will address my anger within 15-minutes. Yesterday in the car while headed on vacation the kids were acting up in the car. Instead of going if, I put in ear buds and listened to relaxing music.

  11. Bernard Chui says:

    Normally when I get angry, my sunset time will be days, after todays I will try to set the sunset time shorter. please pray for me thanks.

  12. Gary says:

    Anger and frustration have been a problem for me. I come from a very dark place. Often pray that God would give me the wisdom to manage my life

  13. Thomas Sells says:

    Great advice…the idea of controlling your anger in a righteous way is something I want to make a habit of. I declare to address my anger immediately and then confront my thoughts before I put my head down to rest!

  14. Trent says:

    I have no idea what “determine a time frame for addressing your anger” means. No idea how to do this challenge.

  15. Dennis James says:

    I am learning to try and address my anger at it’s onset. Instead of engaging , I try to silence myself and and focus on Jesus. Unfortunately, when I am driving in traffic this practice seems more difficult, so during these times I am going to shoot for the five second rule.

  16. Eddie Ackerman says:

    10 (Minnesota) seconds, long enough to address the situation and calm my mind and breathing. When I get angry, I normally respond with mocking and or sarcasm, I plan to let God rule my emotions from now on and not respond until after I have counted to ten. after all men, we are SUPPOSED to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.

  17. Daniel says:

    Focus for 5 minutes when I inevitably get upset while at work.

    I learned a lesson from my 3 year old son, who takes “one deep breath” when he gets upset (something my wife taught him). If that works for him, why shouldn’t I try it?

  18. Corey says:

    So funny enough, a few weeks back when this challenge was put out, I was like “ that’s not for me I don’t get angry anymore“😂! Well I think God has a sense of humor!

    Last week I had had enough and I got very angry for the first time in many years, and yup the words started flying! Totally my old self! Where did that guy come from, he’s been dead and born again a long time.

    You know all growing up I had anger issues! Big anger issues! Outburst of rage!🤦‍♂️ Over the course of these last year’s getting closer to God and he becoming more and more real to me , he has been stripping this from me, and of course I thought it was gone. Until last week that is!

    I am going to declare addressing anger right away and a time of no more than 10min and giving it to God. I feel that is the right amount of time for me now.

    Thank You Vince for posting this challenge again! It’s in these things that I see God moving in my life. The Holy Spirit prompting one another on behalf of one another! It’s so cool!

  19. Tom Lockard says:

    I can address my anger almost immediately, when it happens, so I intend to address it within five seconds after feeling it, starting with asking God to guide my response.

  20. Mark says:

    My goal is to resolve any anger within an hour. Depending on the situation and location (work?) or? I’ll take time to process the contributing factors, talk with God a bit about it and move forward. Holding on to anger is never good and only yields more negative consequences!

  21. Jason says:

    I would say that 10-30 minutes could be enough time to remedy the situation. Often times I find myself instantly jumping to say something when I get upset and over time have made myself stop walk away and cool down and think about it before saying something. Often time it’s something I’ve done to add fuel to the fire that doesn’t need to be there.

  22. Dallas Diggs says:

    The mantra of be quick to hear and slow to speak can be adjusted to slow to interpret as well…it is not unusual to see/read something as well as hear it and react/judge. I am reminded of this middle school experience… a counter clerk accused me of Pickering candy and trying to leave the store. In my pocket was my new eyeglass case because I did not want to wear the glasses I had just gotten. She wrenched my arm and the 6 ft something manager threatened to give me a fat lip. A week or so later who stood beside me on a crowded bus but this counter clerk. I can be quite reactionary when hurt or disappointed. My 12 year old self was cool enough to not lose it…my adult self with the Holy Spirit certainly can resurrect that calm.

  23. Gerald Waddle says:

    Life happened, I’m a day behind but I will set aside 2 minutes while at work and will do 5 minutes while I’m home.

  24. Travis says:

    5 to 10mins of box breathing to try to get my prideful perspective, which is what usually drives an anger flare-up, contained.

  25. Justin Chafin says:

    The faster that I can do this, the better. Though each situation may have its own time frame. Though I do try to make it a point to get away and calm down as soon as I can. Doing this allows me to go back to the person I am angry with and ask for forgiveness if need or just simply apologize.

  26. RANDY PAULEY says:

    I’m 61, have been a believer since age 12 and have been with my wife 41 years ( 38 of them married) . I’ve always tried applying the scripture you referenced, but sadly…I haven’t always succeeded. 28 years in the Army didn’t help as I brought my rank home with me way to many times and had a zero defects mentality! I’ve definitely struggled with anger issues over the years and have realized it. I look forward to this and will definitely apply sunsetting my issues!!!

  27. Chris says:

    Usually my anger is a result of a button pushed in my life. For example, a wound that has not fully healed. I need to spend more time processing my responses. I try to go on a walk or drive, which helps remove myself from the situation and clear my mind. Being consistent in this process is key for me.

  28. Jim King says:

    I try to focus on the cross my sins fueled by anger are forgiven and it’s my responsibility to repent and do better not for my sake so much is for the glory of God

  29. R Scott says:

    The sooner the better but it depends on the situation and the level to which my anger has risen. Regardless, I need to process it once my emotions have subsided and do my best to resolve before the end of the day. I will also try and practice empathy so that I can see the other person’s point of view and gain some insight or understanding as to why they feel or act as they do – then realize why it bothered me to the point of anger.

  30. Steve says:

    I will deal with my anger immediately when I recognize my inflammatory words in my speech or thoughts. If I do not deal with it immediately, I know that I will sin. I will deal with this by reciting Eph 4:26-27 and then asking God why the situation makes me angry.
    I like how it says that it’s ok to be angry, but just don’t sin.

  31. Cory B says:

    For me, each scenario or person it’s directed at requires varying amounts of time. I believe the key for me is to immediately remove myself from the situation, but then verbally commit to a very specific time for resolution. I believe writing it down would be even more effective. I’m the type of person that follows through with my words and if I see it in writing I have to deal with the problem and can’t continue to kick the problem down the road. The sooner I return to the conflict, the other person is no longer in limbo and the sooner a resolution can occur. I just need to be mindful not to return too soon, so realistic timeframes are essential.

  32. Bob Smotherman says:

    I have to divert the anger until the proper time to discuss what is bothering me. Sometimes a couple of minutes, sometimes a couple of days. Regroup and readdress is the way I try to control angry moments.

  33. Tony says:

    5 minutes. 5 seconds … too short. 5 hours … too long. Set a timer on my phone. Walk away. Use this … “When you __________, I feel __________.

  34. Alex Coon says:

    After work where I’m still fairly heated due to the demanding labour often feeding my suppressed rage.

  35. Dean Wendler says:

    When my anger starts growing I will hit the PAUSE BUTTON for 10 seconds and get my words under control.

  36. Jeff says:

    It would be great to avoid anger altogether but if that can’t happen, I want to address the issue(s) immediately.

  37. Michael Pechar says:

    I will address my anger within the first 10 minutes. More importantly, I will be aware of the language I am using.

  38. Dave Egesdal says:

    going out for a long walk to reflect on how I will be positively turning from negative anger toward a positive forward move.

  39. David L. Trima says:

    My # 1 goal is to try to angry less. The “DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF” thinking. Easier said than done

  40. Tom J says:

    When I feel my anger starting to “boil”, I will take five minutes to pause and think about why I’m feeling angry… before I speak or act.

  41. Art Landerman says:

    my anger generally
    last 24 to 48 hours and consists of giving my wife the “silent treatment”. i go about my day in a horrible state and cannot seem to shake it. I’m so happy when it
    finally leaves. I want to shorten the time by 99%

  42. W. James Anderson says:

    Ha. There are so many things I’m angry about. Also, there are things I have worked through. Still, there is quite a bit of residue left over. I try and sunset and succeed in giving it over to God. Not to let it grow. I’m some ways I have succeeded and others I have failed. In the failed category I give it to the Father to deal with. Truly. This is a process. I need His help. I would spit in the face of strongholds if I could but instead I learn to continue to take up my cross and defeat them that way…. I could ramble, but here’s to sunsetting. I will continue pressing on. Peace🌺💀’s and🌈’s🌺-WJAMES

    • W. James Anderson says:

      Ha. There are so many things I’m angry about. Also, there are things I have worked through. Still, there is quite a bit of residue left over. I try and sunset and succeed in giving it over to God. Not to let it grow. I’m some ways I have succeeded and others I have failed. In the failed category I give it to the Father to deal with. Truly. This is a process. I need His help. I would spit in the face of strongholds if I could but instead I learn to continue to take up my cross and defeat them that way…. I could ramble, but here’s to sunsetting. I will continue pressing on. Peace🌺💀’s and🌈’s🌺-WJAMES …. ASAP to deal with anger when it turns into sin. I don’t mean to be vague on the time… could be a minute or hours. Depending on the day😎 Right guys? Here’s to God using me and us for His purposes ❤️‍🔥

  43. Sam Llanes says:

    Really on time. I’m finally dealing with my anger and you send me the invite Thank you sir!! I will not let more than 2 hours go by without praying and trusting God so i can be free of the anger.

  44. Ken says:

    Pray, while in the moment, especially James 1:19, I must be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. I learned that lesson the hard way. Nothing good comes from getting angry. I also believe we can get angry as Jesus did with the injustice we see in this country but do it in a loving, productive way.

  45. Collin Boggs says:

    Address it immediately, (objectively) name it, quietly and reflectively sit in it for < 5 minutes, then let it go. It's not my burden to bear.

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