DAY 3

Brewed Slow

CALL TO ACTION

Here is your call to action today:

  • Make an advanced decision: and share it below on what you do next time your anger boils fast. (i.e., leave the room, bite your tongue, walk away, leave and pray.)
DEVO

96 thoughts on “Anger Is Brewed Slow

  1. Ben says:

    I will walk away from the situation, take deep breaths and pray that God would help me to calm down and redirect my focus to him in that moment.

  2. John says:

    To be completely transparent walking away, biting my tongue and or counting to some number to quell the anger rarely work for me. I have prayed many times that God guide my heart in these situations and its very difficult for me to put put out the fire once it has been lit. What I have found that works more often than not is intentionally praying each morning. I think that time with God, even though sometimes it’s really not the best if I am honest, has set the tone for the day where I can feel his presence in those heated moments. Not always but more often then when I had not been proactive about prayer. That said I will choose the walk away method as much as possible and trust that God will provide me with the insight to speak truth and love.

  3. Nathaniel R Parker says:

    I need to stop and think about the outcome of my anger before I react is it really worth ruining my day over. What relationships could it ruin or damage etc etc

  4. Douglas Fisher says:

    I’m working very hard avoiding the situation unless it’s an emergency at all fall possible, pray and think in my head after I pray what can I do to help the situation.

  5. Pat R says:

    I will pause and ask the Holy Spirit to help me quiet my anger. Al so try and recognize those situations before they happen and keep from reacting emotionally.

  6. Gerald Waddle says:

    I wish I would have done this devo this morning… I failed miserably at not letting my temper go. I said some things in traffic this morning, gave a rather unpleasant gesture and became a very aggressive driver, to the point I scared my wife. Next time in that situation I will breath deeply and pray.

  7. Eddie Ackerman says:

    I will count to 10, remind myself that I am talking to someone made in God’s image, and talk to them as if I was talking to God, with respect and calmly.

  8. Mark says:

    I will ask the Holy Spirit to cool my anger in the name of Jesus.
    Breathe deep and set my focus on Him instead of my trigger!

  9. Samuel says:

    Since I was child Mom always said count to 10 before you respond not react but , sometimes it is just not enough and I need to count to 10,000, Ia ma working on it.

  10. David Bolin says:

    I stated yesterday that my trigger was my pride. Due to my pride, I always feel the need to defend myself and get the last word in.

    I resolute to bite my tongue and walk away.

  11. Dennis says:

    My advance decision has been to just not respond immediately but process the the thought first. My problem is I don’t always succeed. I have got better but still miss the mark. Or when it involves my wife, when I get quiet, she will poke the bear and say things like “oh now you are not talking?” and that sets me off.

  12. Patrick says:

    I have used the “walk away, leave the room” method, but found out how easy it is to leave God out of the situation by not praying. I get consumed in the moment and feel that I’ve got it under control. BUT I DON’T! Not without God. When I can’t leave the room, I look back on all God has blessed me with. If I’m in my car and get angry, I thank God for blessing me with enough money to buy a car and put gas in it. There’s always room to thank God and it puts a smile on my face when I do that. I also realize that I’m still a work in progress!

  13. tinellisd says:

    Today or the next time I feel that fast boil happening I will plan to walk away, not engage with my words and pray.

  14. Sean Swift says:

    I will take all 3 – take a breath to interrupt that hair trigger response, turn away and then pray. Pray for strength and to be filled with a positive spirit – slow down that boil!

  15. Michael Hedstrom says:

    When I feel myself getting hot I’m going to stop and think of all of you who are investing in this action. I find when I decide to change a negative habit, my best incentive to stay on task is when I honor someone else with that commitment.

  16. Todd McClanahan says:

    Biting my tongue is not an option as I need it to speak and taste – I’d be biting it clean off too many times!! Just stopping first to recognize when my min d and heart are receptive to anger is the first step for me meaning I need yo pray each morning to get them right at the beginning of the day. Then when it happens, take 5, walk outside, pray and do some breathing exercises to calm my self.

  17. Rick Criqui says:

    Learn to see my triggers, injustice and deceit, and ask myself how would God want me to respond before I react of my own will,

  18. Michael says:

    I will just stop, walk away with taking time to pray to Jesus for guidance. I like to turn on Christian music to help to clam down.

  19. Keith Thompson says:

    I will pray for strength from God and walk away without saying anything until I’m in a calm state

  20. Tim says:

    I have learned (the hard way I might add) to stop and pray when I feel my “temperature rising”. Not always sure what to pray at those moments so I just repeat the name Jesus…and invite His Spirit into my heart. Results guaranteed!

  21. rob lafond says:

    I will not leave the room while muttering under my breath. I will keep my thoughts to myself and walk away and consider best steps, reaction, etc to situations that stir anger within me.
    I will not slam doors and literally/figuratively close the door on positive dialogue that can work towards resolution.

  22. Chris says:

    I try to stop what I’m doing and process the anger. I know anger wants to have control over me & I have to take the time to tell it no. I have to make right decisions based on what I know is true instead of allowing anger have control. I don’t ever remember a good decision that I’ve made that came from anger.

  23. Daniel Chapman says:

    Be quiet. Don’t say anything. Think about what I would say and the actions that would bring about before I say anything.

  24. Peter says:

    Stop and pray or if circomestances allow, leave and pray focusing on God’s character with thankfulness for He is slow to anger abounding in steadfast love and kindness…

  25. Jack says:

    To recognize I am always in charge of my emotions and anger comes because I fail to control my attitude toward what happens to me.

  26. Paul says:

    I like doing the physiological sigh. It’s two breaths in and one breath out and it will calm your blood rate down and give you a second to cool

  27. Ryan Jacobson says:

    I’ll be honest, when I get angry, I get angry fast. My first reaction is to immediately resolve whatever the situation may be. My heart rate increases, my tongue is unbridled, and I try to win the argument. My Call to Action will be immediately removing myself be it physically or mentally from the situation, for at least 15 minutes. The 24 hour rule does not work for me.

  28. Ray says:

    Get away, stop and pray by asking the Spirit to control my reaction and to fill me with His patience and self-control.

  29. James Gould says:

    I must stand back, or walk away…. Breath deep, and figure out why I am brewing !!! Before I speak

    This is all psychological….. the Change Triangle // look up on the web

    Knowing where I am at in these 3 things will help me get to a calm, compassionate position.

    1) Defensive — notice them, validate them, and see what your feeling apart from them
    2) Inhibitory Emotions — Anxiety – calm it with breathing and grounding get ready to find 7 core emotions
    3) Core Emotions – Sensing your body ask yourself do I have …..
    Fear, anger, grief, joy, excitement, disgust, sexual excitement STAY WITH IT AS YOU BREATH

    After figuring this out, I can head to an open heart state, marked by the C’s

    Calm, Curious, Connected, Compassionate, Confident, Creative, Courageous, Clear,

  30. Jeremy White says:

    I’m going to try and listen better to their perspective. Maybe they are not even angry at me, but something else that is going on in their life. I can easily get defensive, but it’s not about me as our natural tendency is to be selfish. As a believer, I should desire restoration more than being right. Also, if there is a dispute over email or text, it’s better to talk with that person face to face. Extending grace with as much grace as I have been given is so important.

  31. Trent C Rakes says:

    Close my eyes and recite James 1:19-20 in my head. And possibly Ephisians 4:26 if I can remember them all inspired of my rage.

  32. Eddie Ackerman says:

    calmly talk through the situation and explain how I feel to the person that is, intentionally or not, wronging me and how I feel that situation should be handled in the future. most of the time I get hot fast when my kids keep repeating mistakes or are just disrespectful, intentional or not. instead of letting my fuse hit the gunpowder and explode, I am going to choose to increase my fuse by turning these moments of anger into teachable moments for my kids to show them how to respond in a healthy manner to anger and how they can make the situation better, not worse, in the future, for all of us.

  33. Dennis James says:

    I will work on leaving the room and praying. If that is not possible, then I will stop and pray in my head.

  34. Corey says:

    Walk away and pray giving it to God right away! I don’t want to hang onto junk anymore, not for 5min!

  35. Mark says:

    For me each situation might be different depending on the trigger and how I would respond. Most times I would want to walk away, process it and pray about it. If that’s not possible, it’s going to be bite my tongue and sit quietly without a response in the moment. A dear friend who is a coach and athletic director has a 24 hour rule expectation for himself and his coaches. For any angry parent or situation, we wait 24 hours before responding. I use that many times in email communication, this time allows the “boil” to become a simmer where calmer minds might manage a situation before actually creating more strife and angst. “Be slow to anger…..”

  36. Gerald Waddle says:

    I will remove myself from the situation if at all possible, take some good deep breaths and ask God for help.

  37. Steve L says:

    The next time it begins to boil fast, I will take a deep breath, exhale slowly and ask God why this situation is bothering me so much. If it’s my own ego, I will then confess it. If it’s because it’s just another annoyance in a day of disappointments, I will confess that. If I have to confront someone, I will do it respectfully.

  38. Jon Carr says:

    I need to just take a minute to relax and breath. Knowing that my getting angry will not help solve any problem. God Bless you all.

  39. Cory Baron says:

    I need to be still and listen. Take in the information and then excuse myself from the situation. Then I need to recite James 1:19. Quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Finally, I need to pray about it. All too often, I do the right thing and get out of the situation, but I reengage too quickly and I still blow up. If I don’t seek His wisdom and guidance, I don’t have a chance. Unfortunately, I really struggle doing the right thing with those I care about most.

  40. Alex Coon says:

    Is weird though, it’s mainly towards a certain person yet I’ve been told Christians shouldn’t avoid people, especially family members

  41. Tony Collette says:

    This makes me think about the difference between reacting (immediately) vs. responding (more measured). I honestly don’t know what works for me . But what occurred to me is the word “bounce”. A while ago I heard about a bounce technique used to avert your eyes in order to avoid a lingering look. So perhaps I can train myself to bounce when my anger comes on quickly. Like others have said … bounce to another room, bounce outside, etc.

  42. Jesse Skytland says:

    When anger kicks in, especially quickly, removing myself from the situation for a time out to pray is more than likely the ideal situation to act upon to have a moment or even longer to pray and mediditate on the issue addressing the perspective that currently had a change in positivity or such.

  43. Michael Pechar says:

    Leave and pray needs to be mine. I definitely feel more comfortable temporarily leaving the situation.

    • Gary says:

      I often engage my mouth when it would be much better if I just called “time out”. It only escalates things when I blurt out whatever

  44. David L. Trima says:

    When my wife and I would argue, I’d leave the room until I was comfortable enough to talk about it. PROBLEM was she’d follow me. I’d explain that I “NEED A FEW MINUTES”.

  45. W. James Anderson says:

    Takes steps away to simmer… I still have a lot of ground to chip away at long standing anger. In the moment, stop… step away-physically or mentally. Settle. Learn to give my whole self to the Father. At least the next step🌺💀’s and🌈’s🌺

  46. Dennis James says:

    I make the advanced decision to not be so quick to respond but instead take a deep breath and then quietly ask God to take the anger away.

  47. Richard says:

    It’s funny how God puts things together. This morning my devotional was from James 1: 19 – 27. The word says to be quick to listen , slow to speak and slow to anger. It also says if I just read this and don’t do it, I deceive myself. Hopefully I will learn to listen and not getting angry.

  48. Damien says:

    Next time angry today. Pray may the words of my mouth and meditations of my heart be please to you Lord my rock and my redeemer

    • Chris says:

      I am I am going to be mindful of triggers whether it be certain people or places and be mindful of self-care as far as sleep eating and exercising to also help stabilize mood. I have worked hard on anger and frustration . the more I understand my triggers the more I can work on internal brokenness that results in way over reacting to a situation . With God’s wisdom and my willingness I pray for his Strength in Jesus name

    • Steve L says:

      I think that’s the key: understand fully why we men get angry. As guys we don’t have a full handle on our emotions and why we feel the way we do. My wife used to say things to me that were really hurtful (not her intent). It would take me hours to unpack that to understand why I was so hurt. I had so many insecurities that I buried or covered that certain comments came across as attacks. When I understood that I dealt with the insecurities, I no longer felt anger towards those types of comments.

    • Jeremy White says:

      Our tone can make all the difference in the world! Oftentimes, my wife says that I am yelling, when I just feel like I’m raising my voice to get my point across. If my wife and kids all feel like I am yelling, then I need to check myself.

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