Author Archives: Vince Miller

Afraid Of Nothing

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Afraid of Nothing

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me—Psalm 23:4

This is perhaps one of King David's greatest and most quoted Psalms. Think of this writing as a peek into a private journal entry of David, where he shares his deepest insecurities and reveals his greatest fears. At a glance, some could interpret this moment in his journal as "weak" or "emasculating." But David's words could not be more brave and masculine as he seeks to comfort himself in God. It's a display of his security in God while feeling insecure about the present and future. Even though David was a king, he always understood that he served a greater authority. A King whose hand is strong and sturdy. A Shepherd whose rod protects and directs. A Father who hand comforts and guides. Perhaps David states this here not merely to remind himself, but to remind us—that there is nothing to fear when we walk the valley of the shadow of death.

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PRAY THIS: God, let me know your stregth, power, and might when I walk through those dark times.

JOURNAL THIS: "I am worried about this [insert the situation]"

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Fight The Right Battle

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Fight The Right Battle

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”—Ephesians 6:12

It's going to happen today. You are gonna "wrestle" with someone. But it's not a person you can see; it's not "against flesh and blood." Rather the force that opposes you is far more devious. It's a "cosmic" battle on three fronts—it's with "rulers, authorities, and powers" of a cosmic nature. Yeah, it sounds a little out of this world, but it is more real than you realize. And while you will want to wrestle with the people you see, you need to know you may be fighting with something unseen. This devious cosmic ruler, authority, and power wants to unravel your life by getting you to wrestle with the wrong enemy—so don't do it. Your opponent is not who you think.

DO THIS: Don't fight the wrong battle.

PRAYER: God, help me to see the battle and run to the right fight.

JOURNAL IT: "While [insert name] appears to be my enemy, here is the real issue I'm having with them."

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Be Different

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Be Different

When looking, acting, and talking countercultural becomes familiar, it's no longer countercultural. It’s ordinary and expected. And because of this trend, it's getting harder to look different from our culture. Or might it be getting easier? Here is a word of timeless wisdom on this subject.

My son, do not walk in the way with them; hold back your foot from their paths.—Proverbs 1:15

  • The term "walk" here is synonymous with the word "live."
  • "Hold back" is synonymous with the word "restrain."
  • "Your foot" infers "intentional and action."
  • "Their paths" infers "a pattern of living."

So we could read it this way.

My son, do not live the way they live; restrain your intention and action from their patterns of living.—Vince Miller Paraphrased Version.

Being a Christian is to be different. There can be nothing more countercultural than a follower who is obedient to the teachings of Scripture and looks, acts, and talks like Jesus. Jesus instructed us to love those who hate us, give honor to the least, be last in line, and go the extra mile. But there's more. He taught us to make God the highest priority, sell everything before following Him, reorient our desires and give Him glory, pray for political leaders that He appoints, reserve sex for marriage, and avoid even a hint of immorality. Could there be any way of life more countercultural than this?

DO THIS: Be different and be a devoted follower of Jesus Christ—it's real counterculturalism.

PRAYER: God, help me in my looks, actions, and words to be different from the world today. May I be devoted enough that people will see something different in me, because of you.

JOURNAL IT: "Two things I want to do different today are..."

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Be Offensive | Letters To My Son

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Be Offensive

15 Ways To Be On Your Best Offense As A Man Of God

We live in a world where people are being trained to be offended. It appears we live in a time when it's nearly heroic for people to point out the offenses of another. Maybe this is because we've more recently supported social approaches that promote sensitivity, which appears to have escalated into hypersensitivity. Men need to learn the virtue of being sensitive.

However, I wonder if this has led to a culture of men who are over-sensitive in fear of being attacked?

I know some men who feel they are on the verge of being attacked for being born male. Which raises the question: have we become so fearful of offenses and offending others that we have lost our offense?

Let me be clear; there's nothing masculine or Godly about being offensive in what we say or how we say it. Sexual innuendos, lude joking, perverse gestures, or even a “hint” of an immoral action is not appropriate or honoring for a man of God. However, this does not mean we need to forgo some offense. By offense, I mean “taking assertive and positive action.” Offensive action is when we develop an organized and forceful campaign to achieve something. In this culture of growing oversensitivity, too many men give way to fear that perpetuates more fear. It’s a fear of taking action due to concern about hypersensitive responses. This concern can result in living life overly cautious, hesitant, and indifferent because of undercurrents and trends that have endorsed and reward a culture of fear and passivity. Resultantly, we end up training ourselves to respond defensively or not at all. This defensive strategy leads to tragic results in a man’s life when it continues for too long or when we fail to act offensively. In addition, when emotions like guilt and shame reinforce our inaction, we remain enslaved to non-action. In the Bible, we see tragic examples of this repeatedly; men who were defensively inactive when they should have been on the actively offensive.

Son, never miss an opportunity for greatness by being overly cautious or supporting any system that does. Sometimes you need some offensive—in word and deed. But do not fail to be sensitive, as every situation does not dictate offensive responses.

My quick list below is a compilation of two things with each point. First, there are activities that you should stop doing that prevent offensive action. Second, you must assume a corresponding movement that is appropriately offensive. I have made mistakes in these areas along the way, and in some other areas, I still make mistakes. Think of this list as being similar to offensive strikes in a sport. They are strategies for bringing the ball forward that move us from being defensive to being optimistically offensive.

My goal is for you to be a greater man than I. If you take action, even with a handful of these suggestions, you should experience tremendous results in your life.

ONE | Reconciliation
Stop giving excuses for the times that you have harmed others with your words or actions; be offensive, and seek forgiveness from others. On numerous occasions, I have failed to reconcile relational issues. Explaining, blaming, and deflecting are defensive strategies. They are not offensive. However, reconciliation is an offensive move.

TWO | Sin
Stop hiding sin. Be offensive by taking action that diminishes the power of sin. Confession, repentance, and accountability work against our desire to protect wrongdoing; rather, they bring it into the open. There are sins that I embraced for too long because I chose to conceal them.

THREE | Leadership
Stop waiting for your leadership moment; it may not come. Choose to be on the offensive and seize the leadership moments before you. There is always a leadership void waiting to be filled. I have made the mistake of thinking that I needed to be invited to a leadership table to be a leader, and this faulty thinking. Influence is leadership, and you have opportunities for influence right in front of you, right now—lead into them.

FOUR | Speaking Up
Stop being quiet when you see injustice. Be offensive and discover the power of speaking the truth in love. I have made the mistake of turning a blind eye to injustices happening right before me. While their action was wrong, my inaction was worse.

FIVE | Transparency
Stop repressing your feelings, passion, and ideas; this can turn into aggression or depression. Be offensive by being appropriately transparent. Keeping your feelings to yourself will stunt your emotional growth and delay your relational maturity.

SIX | Opportunity
Stop complaining about not getting opportunities. Be offensive and create an opportunity where there is none. I have made this mistake, and it causes us to embrace a victim mentality.

SEVEN | Saying Yes
Stop saying “no”; be offensive and say “yes” to more new opportunities. I have missed a few fun opportunities because of this.

EIGHT | Saying No
Stop saying “yes” to everything, be offensive and say “no” to the right things. Make a good decision against yourself. I have said yes to way too many things and found out I could not keep all of the commitments.

NINE | Persistence
Stop wussing out, when something is hard, be offensive by being persistent than others. I have found much of life is learning to be committed longer than others.

TEN | Asking For Help
Stop aimlessness. When you don’t know something, be offensive, and ask for help. Men make the mistake of living in hidden ignorance because they arrogantly refuse to invite help.

ELEVEN | Women
Stop waiting for the right girl to approach you, be offensive, and approach her. Women like offensively minded men. That’s how your mom and I met. She made a snarky remark to men, and I thought it was attractive, so I turned on the offensive.

TWELVE | Spiritual Habits
Stop believing spiritual maturity happens by accident, be offensive, and build discipline now. Regular prayer, bible reading, worship, and journaling are good habits that will pay off for you down the road. I wish I would have built healthier spiritual habits earlier in my life.

THIRTEEN | Character Flaws
Stop letting that one character problem hold you back; be offensive, and manage your character issues. It takes a while to learn how to handle them effectively. If you start now, it’ll benefit your relationships with respect to play, school, work, dating, marriage, and family. I have made the mistake of maintaining the same character flaw because I never learned how to manage it effectively. This required a lot of reconciliation along the way. Therefore, defeat the need for excessive reconciliation with offensive character adjustments.

FOURTEEN | Vulnerabilities
When are you most vulnerable, be offensive. Cancel that appointment, subscription, event, or meeting. I have made the mistake of staying committed to harmful patterns and destructive relationships for too long. If it makes you vulnerable to sin, act quickly.

FIFTEEN | Accountability
Stop avoiding accountability. Be offensive by inviting other great men into your life who will drive you to be better. The longer you wait to develop these relationships, the further behind you will be in your development as a man and man of God. Men need brothers; never forget this.

In the end, life is not a spectator sport. It also is not intended to be only played defensively. We must engage as men. Be offensive.

I love you, son—Dad.

The Long Road

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The Long Road

There are roads traveled that are difficult for a man to walk. These roads have obstacles arising either from issues others have created or problems we have created for ourselves. Sometimes we must endure their consequences for weeks, years, decades, or a lifetime. Down this challenging road, people say "trust God" and "keep the faith." At times this word of encouragement can feel trite and trivial—maybe because they're right. But what we really want is a relief, a redemption, and a rescue. Saul in the following verse was about to experience just that, the end of a long road. This moment was a time when the Lord intervened and sent another man to restore Saul's sight and redeem his soul. In just hours, Saul would receive sight and become a new man—Paul the Apostle. And while one road did end, a new one began. And some would say it was the hardest and most invigorating of his life.

And the Lord said to him, “Rise and go to the street called Straight, and at the house of Judas look for a man of Tarsus named Saul, for behold, he is praying—Acts 9:11

DO THIS: Pray for an ending and a new beginning.

PRAYER: God, my road has been long. I am tired and weary. I need to be rescued from my own sins and the sins of others. Show me a new road—a road that glorifies you.

JOURNAL IT: "Here are the lessons I have learned on this long road."

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We Must Be Taught

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We Must Be Taught

People want the truth, and I believe they're on a search for it. The truth we desperately want is found outside of us—it originates from God. God's Word is the revelation of the truth, and Jesus is the physical representation of truth. But we cannot know the truth if we don't know how to spend time in the Word and with Jesus. Merely challenging someone to stay in the Word is not enough; a person must be taught how to do it and how to remain in it. We need to know to practice it, live it, and share it with others. Jesus understood this, and therefore he took the time to teach.

Now Jesus was praying in a certain place, and when he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.”—Luke 11:1

DO THIS: Don't just tell someone, teach them how to engage with the truth.

PRAYER: God, teach me so that I can teach others, especially those within my circle of influence.

JOURNAL IT: "May I be taught so I can teach and mentor others, who will do the same."

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Discipline

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Discipline

There are all kinds of discipline in this life, but there are only two ways discipline is imposed. There is discipline that others impose and discipline we self-imposed. Neither is pleasant, but both are beneficial. Depending on the intensity and length of the discipline, it can be very unpleasant. But this doesn't mean it yields no benefit. For example, when we restart a diet, workout, or any new spiritual discipline, for a period we feel no benefit, only pain, agony, and suffering. But we need to push through the pain to realize the benefits. And when the benefits come, like weight loss, increased strength, and spiritual growth, these become a substantial reward. This reward can become so gratifying that we may think we have arrived on our strength because of our discipline. In the physical dimension, to some degree this is true. In the spiritual dimension, nothing could be further from the truth. Spiritual discipline is done from a different motivation and a different reason, not to bring glory ourself self, but glory to God.

For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.—Hebrews 12:11

DO THIS: Practice a spiritual discipline and do it for God's glory, not your own.

PRAYER: God, show me my need for discipline and help me respond with the right motivation giving glory to You.

JOURNAL IT: "I am not burdened by the responsibly of results, but I am burdened by the responsibility of obedience."

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Benny Hinn’s Shocking Rejection Of The Prosperity Gospel

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Benny Hinn's Shocking Rejection Of The Prosperity Gospel

I was blown away when I watched this video "confession" that has gone viral. I had to watch it more than a few times. What caught my attention was not Benny Hinn's renouncement of prosperity teaching and his concerns about how this preaching was spiritually misguided. Try to ignore the shock this renouncement given this message has been a cornerstone of his ministry.

What especially caught my attention was this statement.

"Steve Strang and I go way back, and he's already asked me, "Are you ready to make [your position on prosperity] public?" [I said,] not totally because I don't want to hurt my friends or my love who believes things I don't believe anymore... Frankly, I don't care what people think about me anymore."

I love this moment because I believe this is the moment men are made. Yes, theology is essential. But I think in this instance it is secondary to courage. Courage to go against the flow. Courage to seek guidance with another brother. Courage to go public before your faithful followers. Courage to speak publically what you believe privately. Regardless of whether you agree or disagree with what Benny Hinn said, you have to respect him for his courage. For taking a leap of faith. For going all in and not looking back. This is where men are made.

Then you will prosper if you are careful to observe the statutes and the rules that the Lord commanded Moses for Israel. Be strong and courageous. Fear not; do not be dismayed.—1 Chronicles 22:13

DO THIS: Do something courageous today.

PRAYER: God, at the moment I need it today, shower me with the courage I need and don't have.

IDEA: Get motivated to lean into fear today by watching this 1-minute clip: Lead Courageously.

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The Downward Spiral of Antonio Brown

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The Downward Spiral

Afterward Jesus found him in the temple and said to him, “See, you are well! Sin no more, that nothing worse may happen to you.”—John 5:14

It's often not until too late that we realize the compounded impact of bad choices. Frequently there is a delay between bad behavior and human consequences. Because of this delay, we repeat "unsuspecting" bad behavior thinking we've gotten away with it—when we haven't. What is especially dangerous is realizing too late that the drive that has led to success in one context is amplified in the "manner" which we sin. As men, we must give attention to this, as it leads to momentum in the wrong direction.

In the past two weeks, A.B. and his behavior have been center stage. While nothing short of a legend on the field, what is center stage today is not his athletic ability, it's everything from front office conflict, backroom discussions, contracts, trades, heckling Instagram celebrations, Twitter stabs, and now allegations made by a woman he met in a college bible study.

Two thoughts:

  1. A.B., as your brother in Christ, please do everything you can to stop the downward spiral. You are given an opportunity that most men never get. You are granted a stage on which you can provide evidence for our faith through your play on and off the field.
  2. No good friend, brother, or Christian would let a man continue a downward spiral. When you see this happening in a man's life, say something. If not for their sake, and for the sake of their fantasy team. Sorry, I had to say it. ;)

DO THIS: Stop the downward spiral.

PRAYER: God, give me the courage to confront sin in my life and others I know.

CHALLENGE: Tackle Defeating Repetitive Sin in your small group and stop the downward spiral before it starts.

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The Impact of a Mentor

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The Impact of a Mentor

The report of this came to the ears of the church in Jerusalem, and they sent Barnabas to Antioch. When he came and saw the grace of God, he was glad, and he exhorted them all to remain faithful to the Lord with steadfast purpose, for he was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and of faith. And a great many people were added to the Lord. So Barnabas went to Tarsus to look for Saul, and when he had found him, he brought him to Antioch. For a whole year they met with the church and taught a great many people. And in Antioch, the disciples were first called Christians.—Acts 11: 22-26

Who would you consider to be one of your mentors?

Behind every great man is a great mentor. No man can develop himself any more than a knife can sharpen itself. There is a great myth that exists about the kind of man who needs no other. This is a false belief. Being isolated and exerting tremendous effort does not make you a better man, just more ineffective than a man with a mentor. Paul, who wrote most of the New Testament, was mentored—he did not develop on his own.

Of course, Paul had some gifting and talent, but we have to attribute his early development to Barnabas. Barnabas, a man of God, sought out Paul and spent a year mentoring him. Out of this apprenticeship, the name "Christian" appears.

Who is your mentor, and who are you mentoring? These are two fundamental questions to which every man needs an answer.

DO THIS: List the men who have developed you and send them a note of thanks. If your list is short or non-existent, pray the next prayer immediately.

PRAYER: God, present me with the next man who you know will make me better.

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Find Great Mentors | Letters To My Son

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Find Great Mentors

Everything I’ve learned I have learned from someone else. —John Wooden

And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also. —2 Timothy 2:2

Why You Should Find a Mentor

Most men don’t know how to find a great mentor for a good reason: They haven’t been mentored. Given the time you’ve grown up in, mentorship works much differently than it used to. Families in the past used to spend much more time together, mentoring and disciplining each other—relationally, occupationally, and religiously. However, in your time, divorce, single-family homes, recreation, sports, and media consume us. The church, formerly the center of a community, is now an afterthought for Christians. Because of all these changes, I am concerned about you. These cultural hurdles have impacted how mentorship forms and the simpler structures of the past. Given this, a “traditional” understanding of mentorship, a protege walking with a mentor for a prolonged period, appears to be threatened by the speed and dysfunction of life. However, you cannot punt on mentorship. We as men need to figure it out because John Wooden is right: “Everything we’ve learned we’ve learned from someone else.” This is a polite way to say we need men and mentors in our life.

Son, the simple fact is that we are always being mentored whether we intend it or not. We are being mentored by those who have access to our time and thinking. Consider who these people are in your life. They are coaches, teachers, employers, friends, and the people you listen to and watch on your device. Daily, these people are speaking into your life, and they are mentoring you. Some of their messages are valid, and some are misleading. But instead of subjecting ourselves to accidental mentorship and cultural voices with misleading worldviews, why not find the best mentors? Sound men and truthful mentors with a clear message. Men with wisdom and advice that works.

It took me a long time to learn to be mentored and then mentor others because I grew up in a fatherless home. Today I understand that I wanted mentorship more than anything. I wanted a guide, a coach, a mentor, or a confidant. I wanted a man who could point the way and help me to avoid the pitfalls of life, a mentor who would help me find my advantage. I wanted someone who understood me and could dig out my uniqueness. I wanted someone to help me leverage my skills for the most significant impact. I came to discover that God’s Word was the ultimate guide, but when combined with a teacher, the truth found in God’s Word had a spectacular life. I learned that a godly man was a means of cheating the system since I could glean truth and avoid pitfalls by learning from someone’s successes and failures. This has become my dirty little secret. I have learned how to get free wisdom from lawyers, leaders, entrepreneurs, trainers, inventors, philanthropists, authors, writers, builders, and many more. I have also discovered that by inviting them to share their wisdom, they are endeared to me—which itself is interesting. And it only costs me a drink or a meal, and most of the time, they pay. Through all this, I have discovered seven characteristics that make for the very best mentors. Whether these mentors are occasional or last a lifetime, the following are the characteristics I seek in a mentor. Rarely do mentors possess all seven. But if they do—they become the friends and mentors I lean on for a lifetime.

The 7 Characteristics of a Great Mentor

(Below is a quick reference checklist for you to download.)

One | Chemistry

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.—Proverbs 18:24

You need chemistry with someone you will call a mentor. They shouldn’t be a man filled only with knowledge or some area of expertise, but one with whom you have relational compatibility. Finding this connection is essential, and I have learned it’s critical in a mentoring relationship. At first glance, you may think you could learn a ton from a potential mentor; however, once you meet with them, you might discover chemistry is missing. I would not make a long-term commitment to a mentor for this reason. This may be more intuitive in some of your first mentoring relationships; therefore, I would not jump into any mentoring relationship just because some man appears relationally savvy, has a vast resume, or is an expert in some field in which you have an interest. Look for that mutual chemistry that results in a “friend who sticks closer than a brother.” You might find that a lunch or two will help you discern if the relationship has longer-term potential.

The question you need to ask is:

“Do you have chemistry with them and they with you?”

Two | Expertise

Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.—1 Corinthians 11:1

Next, I would then seek out a mentor for their expertise. We lean on mentors because of their knowledge; this is no big surprise. We want to learn from them because of their competency. To find the best mentor with the expertise you need, you need to assess your current needs. There are many areas of need for knowledge: dating, friendships, education, sports, leadership, skills, career, character, and faith. As you get older, you will discover even more like marriage, family, occupation, and legacy. Regardless, you must recognize where you currently lack the knowledge and need expertise and then seek out people who have the experience you need. People are willing to share and are even endeared to you when you ask. I would strongly recommend these domain experts, but also identify mentors who imitate Christ in their area of expertise. There are plenty of people out there willing to give you advice, but a person who lives in submission to Christ usually knows how to leverage their expertise in ways that bring glory to God.

The question you need to ask is:

"Do they have an area of expertise that you want and need?"

Three | Trust

Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.—Proverbs 11:13

We are not always readily trusting of mentors. Becoming honest, open, and transparent with anyone is challenging primarily because of fear. Fear keeps us from trusting a mentor—fear of being thought of as stupid increases this lack of trust. And the fear of how a mentor might handle information keeps us from discovering the positive potential of trust and growth. When we experience a break in confidentiality, it is hard to trust the next person.

You need mentors who can be trusted and give you opportunities to trust. These are people who don’t mind you asking what you consider to be dumb questions—even though they are not. You need mentors who can take you from your present state to your next best. The only way this is possible is if you can find a trusting person who knows you as you are and where you would like to be. Concealing your desired future state, for reason of fear, will only prolong your journey to becoming the man God wants you to be. This means you need them to keep your confusion, challenges, and personal issues private. The easiest way to build trust is to verbally agree to confidentiality and clarify it as you feel it is needed. Make sure that your mentor knows where you feel insecure and then clarify what is important to keep between the two of you.

The question you need to ask is:

“Do you trust them to keep private matters confidential?”

Four | Refining

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.—Jeremiah 29:11

There is nothing like finding a mentor who cares about your best interests. Over time, you’ll discover a boss, a coach, or a friend who will have agendas that benefit them in their mentorship of you. You need to remember that there are people out there who will give you self-interested advice, using you and your decisions for personal advantage. But “selfless” mentors do exist. More often than not, they are God-fearing people who selflessly set their agendas aside for you.

You need to find a mentor who wants God’s best for you. This means locating a mentor who, over time, gets to know your skills, knowledge, and ability and understands where you want to be as a man and a leader. This mentor should have a growing awareness of where your character needs refining and should be able to identify and help you leverage new areas of potential as an individual. Look for a mentor who can refine you.

The question you need to ask is:

“Do they want what is best for you and your future?”

Five | Challenging

Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.—Galatians 6:1

You need a mentor who can lean into you. I know many avoid discipline and coaching by finding a mentor who only tells them what they want to hear. People who always agree with you are not helpful mentors; however, they may be nice friends. A mentor knows how to cheer you on and appropriately and regularly challenge you. They understand your temperament and find a way to encourage you to become better. Don’t back away from a man that may challenge you. I have found there are some abrasive mentors out there—men who say it as they see it. At first, I avoided these men, but I have found over time that a man who calls it as he sees it is often a man who is not afraid to speak the truth. Too often in a spirit of being nice, mentors fail to speak the truth because, at times, the truth hurts. The perfect mentor is the one who knows how to talk about the truth and do it lovingly. They restore us in what Paul the apostle calls “a spirit of gentleness.”

The question you need to ask is:

“Do they know how to challenge you respectfully and consistently?”

Six | Godly

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.—Galatians 5:22–23

These last two characteristics are the gems of any mentoring relationship. You need to find a mentor who has a godly character. They have an internal compass that reflects the “fruit of the Spirit.” While we often want a mentor for their success, how they achieved that success matters. There is nothing like the combo of a mentor who has incredible expertise and does this in a godly manner. These are men you need to lean on because their mentorship is multidimensional—good for this life and the life to come.

The question you need to ask is:

“Do they reflect and demonstrate Godly character?”

Seven | Truthful

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.—Joshua 1:8

I saved this one for last because I believe it’s the most important. You need to find a mentor who believes in objective truth and wants to help guide you to it through God’s Word. Nothing but God’s Word works. It is accurate, and it works every time. I had a hard time believing this when I was younger, but I am hoping you will take me at my word when I say that God’s Word is the ultimate guide—not man. Mentors will fail you, but God’s Word will not. When a man refers to, reads, or quotes scripture for you, pay attention. This is a sign that they want not their best for you but God’s best for you. We don’t need another opinion in this life. We need more truth, and God’s Word is that truth.

I would highly recommend a mentor who regularly spends time in God’s Word. Men of this kind are rare, but they are out there. Even if they don’t have the most profound resume or the most significant business, they have a success of spiritual proportions. These are men with a more certain compass, and they have a value that will pay off in the life to come.

The question you need to ask is:

“Do they consistently engage in reading and using God’s truth?”

This year, find a mentor. You don’t have to formalize it. In a cunning way, give it a whirl. Buy a great man a drink or a meal. I’ll even pay for it. Give it a try now, and you will discover that it leads to a great advantage for you in the years to follow.

I love you, son.—Dad

Ownership

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Ownership

We are all overcome by something—a struggle, a conflict, a defeat, a sin, a temptation, or a debility. Often we want to prevail but don’t know how. And the impact of the struggle keeps us from discovering the life of an overcomer. Today Vince Miller is joined by Vince Vaughan as they continue the series on being an overcomer, with the topic on Ownership.

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