Day 16 | Think Shoulder-to-Shoulder
- P.A.C.T.—Pray | Ask | Confess | Thank
- P.A.S.S.—Pray Prior | Author's Intent | Stop when Convicted | Share
Your Call To Act (C.T.A.) today is:
- Set A Meet-Up with another brother by thinking Shoulder-to-Shoulder or Face-to-Face.
9 Wisdom has built her house;
she has hewn her seven pillars.
2 She has slaughtered her beasts; she has mixed her wine;
she has also set her table.
3 She has sent out her young women to call
from the highest places in the town,
4 “Whoever is simple, let him turn in here!”
To him who lacks sense she says,
5 “Come, eat of my bread
and drink of the wine I have mixed.
6 Leave your simple ways, and live,
and walk in the way of insight.”
7 Whoever corrects a scoffer gets himself abuse,
and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury.
8 Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you;
reprove a wise man, and he will love you.
9 Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser;
teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.
10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.
11 For by me your days will be multiplied,
and years will be added to your life.
12 If you are wise, you are wise for yourself;
if you scoff, you alone will bear it.
The Way of Folly
13 The woman Folly is loud;
she is seductive and knows nothing.
14 She sits at the door of her house;
she takes a seat on the highest places of the town,
15 calling to those who pass by,
who are going straight on their way,
16 “Whoever is simple, let him turn in here!”
And to him who lacks sense she says,
17 “Stolen water is sweet,
and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”
18 But he does not know that the dead are there,
that her guests are in the depths of Sheol.
Goal: Think Shoulder to Shoulder
Hello, gentlemen, it’s week three and day sixteen.
So yesterday you got your call to act for the week—set a meetup. Today we’re going to look at how to think about this. I know many guys might stall out on this one because they don’t know how to do it. It can be an intimidating step if you’ve never developed a solid Christian relationship with another man. Sometimes it feels like we’re trying to launch out on this weird dating experience, and no man wants to turn to connect with another Christian guy into a dating experience. But we are going to take initiative, so I want to give you two ways to approach this that will take the awkwardness off the table for you. First, you can approach this in a shoulder-to-shoulder activity. Or second, you can pursue it in a face-to-face meet-up. I believe when we are first starting off it’s easier to start with shoulder-to-shoulder activities. It gives us something to do while we are talking and therefore, we don’t have to come up with as much to talk about. Plus, every guy to some extent is a little competitive and energized by doing something. Just ask some guy to do something that you like to do. Think of activities like skeet-shooting where you are holding a gun and standing shoulder-to-shoulder with another guy rather than only sitting face-to-face. Activities like this are perfect. Think golf, games, and guns, the 3 G’s. When we are doing these kinds of activities, I think it’s easier for us to give the relationship a test run and figure out if there is a connection or some form of mutual benefit. But don’t overcomplicate this. If you are ready to jump in, go for a face-to-face meet up. Most men are going to be glad you asked, but if you choose this route it does mean you need to be a little more prepared for a meeting because you are going to need things to talk about. But we will get into that next time.
So you know your tasks for today, pray and read, and schedule a meet-up with some guy before the end of the week. If you still don’t feel confident over the next three days I am going to give you three tips that will guide you to the 411 on brotherhood.
If you are reading along with me, hang on for a couple of seconds I will be right back with you.
Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you;
reprove a wise man, and he will love you.—Proverbs 9:8
Some efforts are a complete waste of time, energy, and investment—like admonishing a scoffer. And we all know a few scoffers. They are people who are unreceptive, unwilling, and unteachable when presented with shreds of truth. At times they are so unreceptive that they turn to hate the person presenting the truth. But while you'll be quick to list off all the scoffers of your life and even recall their resistant moments, perhaps you would be better served by the wisdom of Solomon if you asked yourself if you are the scoffer? And there is one way to know. It's a simple reflective question: "When people reprove you, do you, in response, genuinely love them?"
JOURNAL THIS: I am resistant to the truth because...
DO THIS: Accept reproof regardless of the person, and thank them today.
PRAY THIS: God, make me wiser, but also make me more willing to accept the reproof that leads to the wisdom I desire.
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