Day 29

Day 29 | Stop Disqualifying Yourself



  • P.A.C.T.—Pray | Ask | Confess | Thank
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Your Call To Act (C.T.A.) today is:

  • Stop disqualifying yourself you are indwelt by the Holy Spirit of God. Consider writing down one way you have disqualified yourself and confess this in your prayer time to God.

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101 thoughts on “Day 29

  1. Alan Cleaver says:

    Over the past several days, God’s Holy Spirit has been feeding me with discernment, wisdom, and direction. I am qualified! Our God is so gracious, loving, and awesome!

  2. Jim Kramer says:

    I had a pastor tell me one time that I was not qualified. That was years ago but am working my way back

  3. Joe Celenza says:

    This is a hard one to fill for many of us men.
    11 One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace
    will have the king for a friend.

  4. Allan says:

    I feel like a slave with student loans. That is why I do not want to get a business loan to start the project I am working on. But unfortunately, that is the only worldly way to make it happen. Defeated. That is the perfect word to describe it. But I know God will supply my needs according to His riches and glory. According to His will. If He plans for this to happen, it will happen.

  5. Eric Pearson says:

    The men of Community Heights need to be meeting in small groups. Leaders are needed to offer small groups. Consider being a leader if one of the groups that will hopefully form after the April retreat!

  6. Richard D Maguire says:

    I thought many times that I could not do things, but I can with Gods’ help. Feeding people, Small group leader, mission trips, and more.

  7. Michael says:

    I think the item that makes me disqualify myself is that I don’t think I am holy enough. It seems silly, I know I am saved and indwelled by the Holy Spirit, but I would never presume to hold myself up as the ideal and I think that is where the disqualification comes from. The ideal is Christ and I fall so short (just like everyone else). So I will be more bold.

  8. Don Neal says:

    I like verse 11, “One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.” I need to be in love with purity of heart and treasure speech with grace. These values will help keep me on the desirable, straight path that God intends for me.

  9. Joel says:

    (2/19/21) Proverbs 21:12 The Passion Translation
    “A godly, righteous person has the ability to bring the light of instruction to the wicked
even though he despises what the wicked do.”
    [“There are many examples of this in the Bible: Daniel in Babylon, Joseph in Egypt, and the follower of Jesus today who is living among unbelievers.” (TPT footnote)]
    It is my prayer that I might bring some instruction to the people who read my book, even though I don’t approve of the lifestyle they are living right now.

  10. René says:

    We have spent many years ignoring Verse 7. Thankfully we are back on track due to God’s Grace.

  11. Paul says:

    Verse 6 is important for me. Start your children off the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. I have three grown young men, who are married and have children of their own. What a joy it is for me to see them raise their children in the presence of God. This verse is a good reminder for all of us as men. It takes work to do this, but praying to God daily makes this task easier to accomplish.

  12. Mike Morrison says:

    I need to sow seeds of justice if I desire to help advance God’s kingdom. Sometimes I get impatient with God’s plan. Too often, I run my mouth, and forget to be quiet so I can listen to His voice. Lord help me to be quiet and listen to your voice today in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

  13. Eric Pearson says:

    The men of our church NEED to turn to the Lord! They NEED men willing to lead! Do not disqualify yourself as a small group leader!

  14. kevin says:

    Wow I felt this way before I started opening up to my groups and serving opportunities at church. I felt ashamed that I wasn’t holy enough, or scripturally sound. I didn’t wan to participate because I felt like I wasn’t good enough. That shame helped me stop and/or limit those sins I was doing. Once, I finally engaged in my men’s group, I found out that I was no different than any of the other 20 guys in the room. We all had two things in common. We were sinenrs, and we also loved Jesus and we knew He was the only way to salvation. From there I volunteered for a Sunday School class for boys. I still battle the feeling from time to time. As soon as I get there it all goes away, and all is good.

  15. Cory B says:

    4 Humility is the fear of the Lord;
    its wages are riches and honor and life.
    I pray every day for the Lord to take away anger, pride, ego, shame… and in return to replace it with humility. It’s getting better, but still a daily struggle.

    I’ve used the excuse that it’s just not me. I’m not a “bible thumper or roof raiser.” I’ve used the excuse that I’m not educated enough or know the Bible well enough or with enough confidence to teach someone else. What if I’m wrong about something?

  16. Thaddeus Kennedy says:

    One way that I feel I disqualify myself is that I feel that I do not know enough and compare myself to other men who are better leaders. Since I am not on the same level as them in knowledge, I will never be able to get there are be capable to lead as well as they do. This thinking has causes me to not step up and lead at times when I very well could have.

  17. Jeffrey Lindsey says:

    I use to think the timing wasn’t right people use to make me think this but Gods timing is always right everyday.

  18. Thomas Sells says:

    V1…I am so encouraged to think about leaving a Legacy for my kids and family…having been remembered as a good man…and not anything else…is ok with me

  19. Janic Maysonet says:

    One thing I feel I’ve always lacked is confidence…confidence in myself, my abilities and sometimes even God. Because my lack of faith in myself is a lack of faith in the Holy Spirit and the work He’s performing in me. I pray that the Lord May grant me confidence and increase my faith in His process within me. Amen.

  20. Robert says:

    I’m kinda of an intervert , not comfortable around peers, but excell on youth Mission Trips. : )

  21. Kevin V says:

    v6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. (NKJV)

    As parents, our job is to train our children and prepare them for life and it starts with God’s word. I work in education and so often I see troubled children who seem to have no sense of right and wrong. As they describe their home life, I am saddened because they do not have a solid foundation from which to stand. The best way I can show them Jesus (at school) is with my interactions with them – kindness and love. My prayer is that God opens doors that allows me to share my faith with students outside of school – and sometimes I get that opportunity! What a blessing!

  22. Gary says:

    I am one of those men that vince is talking about here.My wife tells me all the time I do it to myself. I have a comprehension problem and is is difficult for me ,but so I grow in in my faith as a new believer, I find all my brother and sisters in my church are supporting me and helping me.Our pastors are always there for me when I have needed them.As a wretched man that I was its amazing to me how gods glory is so wonderful. I praise him and love him forever. Amen

  23. Brad says:

    Rich and poor have this in common:
    The Lord is the Maker of them all.
    This stood out to me, today. God made all of us, may God help me show compassion to love my neighbor.

  24. Tom says:

    Faith is what it is all about. Never think you are not good enough, have faith in the Lord and he will lead the way.

  25. Eddie says:

    I have declared in the past that I was unqualified to minister for Jesus, but that was when I was still brand new to my faith and lacking confidence and trust, like a newborn learning to walk.

    • Vince Miller says:

      I have too, and even other people made me feel that way. But this is not true! If you are indwelled by the HS that is all the qualification you need.

  26. Matt says:

    I have been emphatically wrong about religious topics in the past. That fact often gets in the way of ministering today (i.e. what if I’m also wrong now). This has led me to self doubt.

    But, I know who I now believe in. I know God is alive and living in me. I want to shed the doubt caused by my mistakes in the past and press on for God, and for whatever He has in store for me.

  27. Mark Lubbock says:

    As I read through the chapters of Proverbs I find myself agreeing with the ones I am already engaging, and REALLY challenged by those I am not. It is so much easier to focus on the tenants that are in my wheelhouse than to tackle something that requires intentionality and worse change. Group studies like THIS are so encouraging for meto Step Up!

  28. Jim says:

    In reading this Proverb, Verse 12 revealed to me , in my sin or unfaithfulness the Lord will withhold his words ,or the understanding of his words. I need to stay obedient and listen to where the Lord wants me to work in ministry.

  29. Al says:

    Well I do have these thoughts and fears, for I know Gods called me to work with men I will continue to pray and talk with Pastor Kevin ( Mahoney ) about where I can help or maybe even start a men’s study

  30. Tom Vang says:

    I have felt marginalized most of my life, and being at Five Oaks hasn’t changed that. To clarify, most of it is me, while some of it is from the behavior of a small handful of people. The lie I have felt is, “You will never be one of them.” “Them,” being majority person accepted by majority people. Whether this is true or not, it doesn’t affect my following after Jesus and who He accepts me as (his son, being redeemed by Christ). I need to live as one gifted and empowered by the Holy Ghost!

  31. Eddie says:

    Back to busy days for me, playing catch up yet again, I am 3 days behind currently, but planning on fixing that now. 🙂 two sets of verses stood out to me, verse 6: “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” I hear this one a lot in kids ministry at church and also sometimes at AWANA. the other set of verses that stuck out to me were “saying 3”, verses 24-25: “do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” cautionary advice from the wisest man in the Bible.

  32. Scott Hal says:

    7 The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender. As a big Dave Ramsey fan “the borrower is a slave to the lender”. As a real estate agent I see first hand how this plays out. The second vs. that stood out is “14 The mouth of an adulterous woman is a deep pit; a man who is under the Lord’s wrath falls into it.” David time and time again keeps warning us of the power of an adulterous woman throughout Proverbs. It’s obvious he learned this first hand.

  33. Bert says:

    I have disqualified myself in things because of lack of education, college etc. Just education in experience and hard knocks.

  34. Cory Bullock says:

    This is a constant for me. My sins of the past and even current failures can cause me to doubt my walk and be a distraction to my daily course I set for myself.

    • Jesse Skytland says:

      I am ready to let go and let God provide for me what I cant do for myself today. This is a big stepping stone for progress in my life. I have in the past in moderation, now the future holds even bigger success because the Ministry is his plan. Today I even made a commitment to increasingly further my progress in this with a new Christian goal. Its amazing what the Lord is doing in my life now days. Praise him! Thank you LORD ALMIGHTY❕?

  35. Gordon says:

    I sometimes disqualified myself because of my minority personality type – stoic. Practically everything people enjoy is boring to me, and vice versa, so it’s hard to converse with others. I believe God wants me to confidently do my best and leave the rest to Him.

  36. Ted says:

    Praise our God for He gives us wisdom, strength and peace. This has been the only way I have made it.
    Blessings brothers

  37. Roland says:

    Yes I have completed today’s challenge and I welcome God, Jesus in the days to come that I will stand firm as His disciple, come Holy Spirit!

  38. Chad Husted says:

    despite how i feel about myself at times, feelings betray. I am good enough for the Lord’s service.

  39. Dennis says:

    How many of us think we are not good enough to carry the banner for our Lord? The day you realize that you are good enough will be a glorious day. God has used murderers, liars, prostitutes, peasants, blind people, lame people, rich people, poor people, and all others under the sun to do his work! David did not kill Goliath. God used David as a tool to kill Goliath. Always remember that God does not call the equipped, he equips the called! He may be calling you today!

  40. J.T. Fetherolf says:

    Verse 3
    Didn’t have to read too far for God to convict me on a verse. As someone who has struggled with addiction (alcohol, pornography), this really hits home. It is amazing how often I would put myself into situations or surround myself with people that would create an environment where it was easy to be susceptible. I have had to “remove” some people from my life and have definitely learned things that I need to be careful of (places, circumstances, thought patterns). Just being aware and prudent significantly decreased the number of times I found myself in a compromised situation or decision.

    As far as disqualifying myself for ministry, my biggest one is feeling shame and guilt (unworthiness) based on my sin patterns. Taking the time to remember the people that Jesus (and God) used in His ministry helps, but I still have struggles with it.

  41. Will says:

    I definitely disqualify myself as not being enough for ministry.
    I choose to reject the lie that the Lord can’t use me because of who I am or things I have done. I reject the lie that I am not patient enough or strong enough. I reject the lie that choosing to step deeply into my calling will harm my family.
    I choose to believe that the Holy Spirit will empower me to be as patient and calm as I need. I believe that fear is not of God and should not win. I believe that it will be difficult, but if God is calling us into it, it will be good. It will even be the best for me and my family. As God’s best is my best.

  42. Chris says:

    I feel uplifted by this morning. Reminds of the Saturday night live skit. I am good enough.

  43. Louie says:

    17,18,19–listen-follow-it will do you good-u can pass it on to others-Trust in the Lord!

    Paired with stop disqualifying yourself!!

  44. Scott says:

    4 Humility is the fear of the Lord;
    its wages are riches and honor and life.

    My desire is to live in humility. I pray I do and that God will work through it.

  45. Chuck says:

    Verses for me to be reminded of:
    2 Rich and poor have this in common: The Lord is the Maker of them all.
    4 Humility is the fear of the Lord; its wages are riches and honor and life.
    9 The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their food with the poor.
    12 The eyes of the Lord keep watch over knowledge, but he frustrates the words of the unfaithful.

  46. Nate Hill says:

    We do disqualify ourselves and many of us have been emasculated by society.

    Some of us were taught to keep our feelings under control and deal with our problems by making up!

    Life is to be a balance, and we need to know that we are here for a purpose. The gifting and talent Good bestowed on us is for the benefit of serving Him and bringing Him glory, but there is no way we can go this by ourselves. We have the Holy Spirit, but we also need to be in relationship and having a friend that we can speak into their life and vice versa!

    This isn’t simple, but my focus is to bring Glory to Him with what we do and working in growing in Him daily even through the failures.


  47. Terance Roberson says:

    I have read without commenting lately. I just want to encourage my brothers to continue reading and have faith! Keep praying!

  48. Sprocket says:

    “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” – Saint Stuart Smalley

  49. Mike says:

    7 The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.
    Several years back a friend of mine worked for a loan company that catered to people who no longer could get loans from banks or credit unions. These people were desperate for money at Christmas. Loans were given to these people for more than 30% interest rate. After a year he quit his job because he knew the company he worked for were exploiting people with bad credit. Living outside your means can bring financial difficulty and a whole lot of stress.

  50. Gavin says:

    A good reminder that we are all created in the image of God!

    22 A good name is more desirable than great riches;
    to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.
    2 Rich and poor have this in common:
    The Lord is the Maker of them all.

    • Troy says:

      v6 start children off on the way they should go and even when they are old they will not turn from it. I may not have started all my children off in the right direction but I now every day point my children in the right direction by sharing Gods word with them even though some are adults. We can never give up pointing those around us towards the lord. It’s a matter of Heaven or hell. As far as disqualifying myself for ministry yes I have especially on the topic of time I have. Life has so many “billboards” pulling our attention away from the lord and I can get so distracted. A friend of mine says that we have to keep our focus on the road ahead and not let those “billboards” on this journey distract us. It’s not easy but the lords worth our focus. Pray on.

  51. Michael says:

    This is a huge struggle for me, especially during times when I recently stopped backsliding. I’m looking to be more pro active, and find a way to serve the church where I can use my gifts

  52. Massimo says:

    Great reminder this morning! God will equip you along the way! You are good enough to get started right now! The Holy Spirit in you is all you need to get going! Awesome stuff!

  53. Patrick says:

    I’ve felt disqualified at times over ministry size and scope. It’s tempting at times as a pastor to compare and feel less than others. But God even says here in Proverbs 22 that a good name (a name that exudes character and godliness) is far more valuable than riches, size of church, or earthly fame. Pray for me to be faithful and full of character. I will pray the same for you guys. Love you!

  54. Bill Fuess says:

    It is apparent that whom we are spending time with will indeed influence us good or bad!! The choices we make an things we do are extremely important to our Christian walk!! Good luck to all of you !!

  55. Dave says:

    Wisdom is available and it must be taught to the next generation. Living with wisdom puts it on display for others to see and experience. Folly works the same way and we must be discerning as to which attribute we gravitate to and potentially adopt for our selves.
    As men we know when we have acted foolishly and the enemy uses that to defeat us or cause us to disqualify ourselves from being about “Father’s” business. God is faithful to provide the wisdom we need for today, a new day unlike yesterday or tomorrow; we have the opportunity to live in wisdom and be the man God created us to be.

  56. Jonathan says:

    My most recent was a couple years ago and said “I’m not a teaching pastor, I don’t do the preach thing.” And then Henry asked me to be mentored by him in preaching and God equipped along the way. My ill-equipped feelings fall mostly to family right now vs ministry. Thanks for your prayers brothers!

  57. Dave Benson says:

    Prov 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

    So many times I have disqualified myself from reaching out to others including my own children. God so wants to use me in the lives of others and they actually are hungry for it but I become the weak link! Help me Lord to realize that your Holy Spirit dwelling in me is enough.
    In the last several days I have noticed Vince telling us to “hang in there” so we need to quit selling ourself short and allow God to do His work in us. Each of us can make a difference in ministering to others.

  58. Ryan Gatzlaff says:

    Absolutely crucial message from Vince this morning! One of the consequences of men disqualifying themselves from ministry is the impact it has in leading at home and teaching our children. I know I struggle to to train my children up in the way that they should go when I feel unworthy. I know habitual sin has caused me to disqualify myself more times than I can count. Thank you, Lord, for not giving up on me.

  59. Ian Bonthron says:

    That is a lesson I have learned over time. God can always use me no Matter how many mistakes I have made.

  60. Eric M. says:

    Thank you Vince for you message today – I DO have a tendency to disqualify myself and that is surely the Devil at work! If I continue to listen to this he has won me over and gotten exactly what he wanted. Lord, give me the strength to break this chain of self defeat and listen instead to your words. While I am far from perfect and will NEVER be perfect I can spread God’s word with the tools he has given me. THANK YOU Lord!!!!!

  61. Caleb says:

    Too frequently I disqualify myself when I’m faced with opportunities to witness. It’s the fear that I’ll screw the message up or it won’t be well received. I really have to let this issue go and trust that the Holy Spirit will guide my tongue and bless the results in His own time.

  62. Dean Wendler says:

    Verse 4 “Humility is the fear of the Lord; it’s wages are riches and honor and life.” What a true story in my life. But PRIDE wants to get in the way. I am well prepared to do ministry, but I allow fear to get in my way. It is time to let the Holy Spirit do what he does best – guide my life.

  63. Brian says:

    Day 29: I worry about the what if’s around verse 6. Am I doing enough? What if I fail? It’s easy to let the doubts from my own failures extend to my children. I need to lean into God’s promises here.

    We have an older NIV translation that reads “Train” instead of “Start”. The application notes state that it’s our responsibility to actively train our children to make the correct choices rather than making choices for them. I like that the choice of the word “train” really speaks to a long process of equipping our children rather than simply “starting” them through bedtime prayers or Sunday services, etc.

  64. Dan says:

    I don’t know what the author is saying to his readers today. But I do hear God telling me to stop fearing man. Verses 4 and 5 hit on this.
    I have an opportunity to expose this fear today. Pray that I will take it.

  65. Fred Gatzlaff says:

    Vince hit me right between the eyes this morning. So easy to disqualify myself. I have to let the Holy Spirit lead me and use the gifts and abilities that God has blessed me with.

  66. Denny says:

    Verses 10 and 24 spoke to me today. I was once told I was not good enough for ministry and I took it to heart. I have since disassociated myself from that person but I still hear his words in my head. Thank you, Vince, for your inspiring words. This challenge has done a lot for me. I don’t know what God has in store for me but I stand ready to answer His call.

  67. Squirrel says:

    In practice on this, claiming that I am good enough to present God’s message to others. When I am surrounded by men who are in the word and getting after getting right it’s easier and I must be able to take initiative to spread the word in the places God puts me.

  68. Tim Kelley says:

    The last verse spoke to me. I own an automotive repair business and have worked on our mayors car, the college president, the college fleet of vehicles and numerous businesses. Those truly competent workers will serve kings is true. Finally, verse 1 “choose a good reputation over great riches”. You have to treat people right In business, they know your name. I’m living proof a third generation of auto technicians and my son the fourth generation is learning the trade.

  69. Kevin says:

    Disqualifying myself is spiritually sick. God’s spirit is always with us, we just have to listen. Verse 1 talks about the importance of reputation. With a goid reputation you can have greater influence more so than riches. Later in the chapter we learn that riches can lead down the wrong road.

  70. Troy says:

    Proverbs 22:3 The prudent see danger and take refuge,
    but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.
    It is so easy to Disqualify yourself, I struggle with that daily
    but to be yourself,
    be wise and continue to
    grow in a path God intended sure sets the course for success.

  71. John says:

    The one of the ways I disqualify myself is just the thought of myself as not being a developer and much more of a starter. I also sometimes just don’t believe deep down that people will change and that sometimes my efforts and time spent with them doesn’t really make a difference because of that.

  72. Wayne D says:

    24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,
    do not associate with one easily angered,
    25 or you may learn their ways
    and get yourself ensnared.
    When I was in my early 20’s, I worked with a hothead who excelled at his work and I admired him. He taught me good things and some very bad things that take a long time to get over. I still need to work on getting ticked off so easily. God gives us all the tools we need if heeded.

  73. Steve Roarke says:

    Everyone will answer to the Lord for the life they live.
    Be a faithful servant, be generous, be loving and forgiving.

  74. Nick says:

    Day 29:
    I love verse 6 because it gives me hope as a parent, but I have also seen this not play out exactly right in my observations of other families whom I feel like the children were started in the right direction, bit eventually walk away from the Lord. It is God’s Word, so I trust it, but I am trying to make sure I am not interpreting it wrong. The error usually lies with me, so if anyone has any other insight on this verse, I will take it?!?

    “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

    Verse 11 reminds me of Billy Graham. It also reminds me of how when God is using people and empowering people through grace and love, don’t be surprised who he could put you in front of. You could become the kings friend.
    “One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.”

    Vs. 29 is along this same vane. You have to work hard at your skill and developing what your gifts are and he will use those to create platforms to do ministry from.It is his power we need to lean on. That is usually where I disqualify myself. I try to just do everything on my own strength and when I fail, I become disheartened and quit.
    “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank.”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22:6, 11, 29‬ ‭NIV‬‬

  75. Eric says:

    Today I want to stop saying I am not good enough. I know that I am good at what I do. So what is the line between confidence and pride. That is the issue. Things I never have done or done well, God will give me the knowledge to do. I just dont ask him, like we learned in the P.A.C.T.
    Prayer guide lines. And Proverbs 2.

    • Chris says:

      Eric – I think pride comes in when we stop really on God and we take credit for the successes we have. Or we forget to acknowledge those that have helped us along the way.
      I believe God gives us talents, gifts, skills to do things well. Pride becomes a problem when we fail to recognize where it all comes from.

  76. Jay Wegiel says:

    I’ve had, and still do get, each and every one of the self doubts that were mentioned. The way I walk through them is praying and counting on the Holy Spirit’s strength. Not my own. The outcome is that I’ve been able to do more in ministry than I ever imagined. How did it happen? Forgetting self and trusting God. I felt a little conviction, I was OBEDIENT, doors opened strength came. My favorite saying is; Light responded to brings more light!

  77. cory doden says:

    Here’s an excuse I hear alot from guys and unfortunately use myself too often: “The timing is not right to (fill in the blank)”. God’s timing is always perfect! Let’s listen to Him.

  78. Ben says:

    13 “The sluggers says there is a lion outside! I shall be killed in the streets!” No bad excuses. Quit comparing other men’s qualities and skills to my own. I am in dwelt with the Holy Spitit! Stop disqualifying myself-declare it, own it, live it!

  79. Dan says:

    God protects and rewards those who make the commitment to follow him. The unfaithful may seem to have an easier time of it, but in the long run their plans fail and their lives amount to nothing. SB

  80. Brian Grundhauser says:

    Listen to God’s word and take it to heart for there will be punishment or reward.

  81. Brian Hays says:

    I believe everyone has a testimony and a ministry. I pray that the men(and women) of Grace do not self-disqualify and seek God’s greatness for themselves and for His kingdom.

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