Letters To My Son
Why I've Written These Letters
Over the months, I have been writing letters to my boys. One is in high school, and one is in college. The reason I started writing them was two-fold. First, I felt that writing them would demonstrate thoughtful love and care. I have hoped that the occasional text with a meaningful and personal letter from Dad would pique their interest. As a father, I feel a deep desire to disciple them. Yet at their present stage, I know friends, teachers, and coaches will get more face time and, therefore, will end up discipling them more than I. Thus, these letters are an attempt to get in front of them spiritually on meaningful subject matters.
But I also have a secondary reason for writing. I plan on my sons outliving me, or at least I pray they will. And if I do pass from the land of the dying into the land of the living before them, I hope these letters will become a meaningful part of the memory that they have of me and my beliefs and values—Letters from Dad from the beyond. They are words that I hope outlive me, and maybe to the third and fourth generation.
In the process, I have also discovered that many of Dad's out there have appreciated reading them. Dad's young and old. Dad's to be, and Dad's who were. But I have also discovered that many read them for themselves as well.
So men, enjoy it! These are my letters to my son. I will keep writing, and I pray you will share them generously.
All The Letters I Have Written To My Son
Respect Authority | Letters To My Son READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.”—Jesus, Luke 22:42 “Football is like life – it requires perseverance, self-denial, hard work, sacrifice, dedication, and respect for authority.”—The legendary coach, Vince Lombardi […]
Love Women | Letters To My Son READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”—Genesis 1:27 “Marriage is a lot of give and take. You take a lot, and you give a lot.”—Verna Mae […]
Produce Value | Letters To My Son READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than on the opinions of others.”—Marcus Aurelius “For while bodily training […]
Moderate Anger | Letters To My Son READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within […]
The Power Of Addiction | Letters To My Son READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Quitting smoking is easy; I’ve done it hundreds of times.—Mark Twain But watch yourselves lest your hearts be weighed down with dissipation and drunkenness and cares of this life, and that day come upon you suddenly like a trap.—Luke 21:34. But I’m Not An […]
The Pride Problem READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Pride is more than the first of the seven deadly sins; it is itself the essence of all sin. — John Stott He must increase, but I must decrease. — John the Baptizer, in John 3:30 Your Pride is Always Going to Be a Problem […]
Find Great Mentors READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Everything I’ve learned I have learned from someone else. —John Wooden And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also. —2 Timothy 2:2 Why You Should Find a Mentor […]
Be Offensive READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE 15 Ways To Be On Your Best Offense As A Man Of God We live in a world where people are being trained to be offended. It appears we live in a time when it’s nearly heroic for people to point out the offenses of another. […]
Build Great Friendships READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE The secrets to building great friendships with others. A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.—Proverbs 18:24 It Was Easier When You Were Younger It was a lot easier when you were a […]
In Your Singleness READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”—Ephesians 5:25 Companionship is a Worthy Desire If you are looking for companionship, friendship, and a relationship with a woman, know that this is a worthy desire. And having the aspiration […]
The 5 Voices Men Hear READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE The world is in a constant conspiracy against the brave. It’s the age-old struggle: the roar of the crowd on the one side, and the voice of your conscience on the other.—Douglas MacArthur My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and […]
God Is Man’s Provider READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE God is the source of all things. Many men of the Old Testament were remarkable leaders, pioneers, and patriarchs in our early faith. One of these men was Abraham. He is known by many as the “father of faith.” And he bears this title […]
Get Good Counsel on Money READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.—Proverbs 15:22 There are certain areas of a man’s life where the counsel of others is necessary, but where I have found it hard to ask for help. One of these areas is money. […]
Four Things Friends Do Even When It’s Hard READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “The pain of parting is nothing to the joy of meeting again.”—Charles Dickens Son, you are hitting that time in life when you will find some friends, and you are going to go in different directions. While this is going […]
Physical Stewardship READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE I think permitting the game to become too physical takes away a little bit of the beauty.—John Wooden For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life […]
When Decisions Disappoint READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Son, there will be times in your life that you will make decisions that will bring on some unfortunate consequences. These consequences are going to be of various levels of consequence. Some will have little pain like a prick to the finger that throbs and […]
Sex, Porn, & Desire READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Son, I have met so many men who are compulsively viewing pornography that I must write this letter. While many of the notes I write to you, I look forward to writing; this one was difficult to write as the subject matter is sexual, […]
You Are Not A Failure READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE “Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be “—John Wooden. “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t […]
You Are A Part Of Something Big READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Church attendance is as vital to a disciple as a transfusion of rich, healthy blood to a sick man.—Dwight L. Moody Wherever we see the Word of God purely preached and heard, there a church of God exists, even if it […]
Lured By Sin READ OTHER LETTERS TO MY SON HERE Knowledge of God’s Word is a bulwark against deception, temptation, accusation, even persecution.—Ed Cole Son, at some point, you are going to become aware of the deceptiveness of sin. You will be lured in by it. It will hook you, and you will be held […]
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Vince Miller is an author and speaker to men around the world on topics that include manhood, masculinity, fatherhood, mentorship, and leadership. He has authored 18 different books for men and is hosted on major video platforms like RightNow Media and Faithlife TV. He hosts a weekly podcast, writes weekly articles, and provides daily thoughts from God's Word all just for men. He is a 27-year ministry veteran and the founder of Resolute a Men's Ministry Platform that provides bible studies aimed at building better men found at www.beresolute.org. See his latest book and small group study Called to Act: 5 Uncomplicated Disciplines for Men.