“It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king's house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful."—2 Samuel 11:1-3
What's a man to do when he can conquer nations, peoples, and giants but he cannot conquer himself?
David among the great conquerors in all of human history was tactical, charismatic, and blessed by God, but in this battle with himself he lets down his guard. Swayed by a pornographic moment, he saw from his "rooftop a woman bathing." And this was no one-glance moment. This woman was one who "was very beautiful" from his point of view. And so the bait is set for all men. The desires of your flesh lead you into one of the great battles that all men face—the progression of sexual sin that works from the lust of the eyes, to the lust of the flesh, to the pride of life. And here you battle and fall every time. Note the battle is not the fault of beauty. It's the fault of your lustful desires that long for satisfaction outside of the boundaries of God's will. Desires that arise from your lazy attention to the battle as you sit on the "couch" in the boredom of the "late afternoon" aimlessly "walking on the roof." In the absence of activity, you will find a musing that is not in line with God's moral will. This is where you are weakest. This is the giant you must slay—the battle with your desires in boredom and moments of weakness.
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When I am alone!
When I’m alone or tired is the times I’m most vulnerable
My most vulnerable time is late evening to bedtime. However I tend to have lustful moments throughout the day when temptations come such as seeing pretty women on TV or when I am out shopping.
Mostly at night when I’ve stayed up to late. Or if I relapse into drinking. Stress and fatigue.
No particular time. Alone, bored, happy, sad, stressed.
I am most vulnerable at night before bed when it’s quite and dark
I feel most vulnerable when I’m bored and have nothing productive/constructive occupying my mind or guiding my actions.
“Idle hands are the devil’s playthings.” -Benjamin Franklin
Whenever I am home alone.
Midday like 3 to 5
When I am alone or fighting with my wife!
I’m most vulnerable when I have become tired in battle and want a diversion.
I’m most vulnerable when I use Facebook; and everything time I see beautiful women
When I am home alone
I find myself most vulnerable when I am alone during downtime. I also find myself vulnerable during stressful or frustrating times alone. Common denominator “alone”.
I am more vulnerable to any kind of lust I believe when I am alone!
downtime later in the day- end of the day.
after tired from buys-ness and stress
I feel most vulnerable when stressed . in the evening after work
I am vulnerable whenever I see a beautiful female and it does not matter what time of day. So basically all the time and anywhere. It’s a terrible disease.
When I am frustrated or angry. This could be at any time, especially when alone.
When trying to get to sleep at night.
When I’m alone. Often times when I’m trying to get to sleep.
First thing in the morning or late at night
When I’m all alone is when I am most susceptible to wrong thoughts.
I’m most tempted when I’m alone, have opportunity to lust and/or when I’m bored. Time of day seems to fluctuate.
At nighttime when I’m struggling to fall asleep
I’m most vulnerable first thing in the morning or when I’m alone at night.
I am most vulnerable when I wake up in the morning or right before bed at night, and when bored wasting time on my phone.
bored or stressed are times i’m most vulnerable to wandering thoughts. Happens at random times. I’m getting better at being aware of what is happening so I can redirect my attention. It’s not easy and it seems the battle for my thoughts is relentless.
After each shift of my physically intensive job where all I want to do is lay on the couch
mid morning
For me as others have shared it’s mornings or evenings and anytime i don’t have some activity keeping me busy/distracted. I also find when I’m upset with someone, I seem to us it as a power or control over the situation.
It used to be the internet after everyone went to sleep, so i stopped using my laptop after 10pm. Now it is first thing in the morning when i am just waking up and my thoughts are still trying to form. It is too easy for them to wander.
I am most vulnerable during times that I am stressed out and times that I am bored. I have been able to refrain from the internet lust the closer and more focus I put into Christ and his word. But, I still struggle outside of the house when everywhere you look there is a sexual billboard or poster or some sexual marketing campaign. Then there is also the people that dress in ways your eyes can not help but wonder and it creates this aggressive cycle of lustful thoughts. And even though you know it’s wrong your mind still pulls you in.
I failed to care for my emotional self over the years. I compartmentalized and pushed back into a hole. I accepted hearing I had cancer better than I was depressed. When alone challenges me. I am in counseling but have scared my family. Making progress on a very rough road that is long.
The moments I feel most vulnerable are when I feel disrespected, discounted, unheard, misunderstood, inadequacy and shut myself off.
This, I am fully able to relate to understanding.
most vulnerable mid afternoon on the beach
In the mornings when I first wake up.
And when I’m alone.
My most vulnerable times are when I’m just browsing around on the internet. That’s when I struggle with the temptation to visit certain sites, even though I know I shouldn’t.
It is times I am alone.
It seems that I am weakest when I am overtired, that seems to be the times that I fall into sin.
Then the merry go round of guilt starts. Thankyou for your help
There really isn’t any particular time of day for me. What draws me the most is this stupid smart phone. I go to Google news and am drawn to news articles that tickle my fancy. Women, sexual stuff that I shouldn’t read or look at.
AGREE. The “stupid smartphone” has made things like lust too easy to access.
In moments of procrastination
And these phones are now in the hands of elementary age kids. Boys and girls. I’m sure that they are not being used for bible memory verses. 🙁🙁
It is so true, and mine is in the evening after a long day at work. I live in an apartment with sexually active and loud neighbors…it’s truly a battle everyday.
Wow. This would be a big challenge for anyone. Constant exposure. Especially when you are trying to come down from a long day!
Running away is the only way, go for a bike ride, put headphones on and listen to you or another spirit filled podcast.
When I am bored and alone mainly when I am stressed as well
When a I am alone and bored.
Like most people, it’s usually when I’m laying in bed to either fall asleep or wake up. I also struggle a lot if I’m bored. Modern technology has made it extremely convenient to look at inappropriate things. So I need something to keep my thoroughly occupied so that I don’t have time. I’ve also noticed that the longer me and my wife go without having a moment of intimacy, the harder it is for me to resist lusting and looking at pornographic images.
When I am bored and want to break up the mono autonomy of the day.
Excellent identification! 🔥
When I am overly tired, more at night. Whenever and wherever I see a shapely woman.
GTT, excellent sharing. thanks for being specific! 👊🏼👊🏼
In the middle of the night. Even while dreaming
Brent, thanks for sharing!
Yes! I’ve noticed (after I’ve sinned) I was either hungry, angry, lonely, tired. HALT. I need to recognize that BEFORE I sin. Vince hit it right on the head about inactivity. When I’m not busy with my day I have extended time on the computer. Even if I’m doing work stuff, I’ll get to wandering after a few hours. Late morning. I feel crushed of how that could happen after I’d prayed, read devo quietly, etc., just a few hours prior. Also on the couch late at night. Someone catches my eye and I’ll hit pause. So frustrating! Conversely, if I’m at Church or related event, I’m totally fine. So dumb. I’ll go through the whole day hating myself and thinking I’m unsaved….
Good word Chris. Well said! 🔥
I feel the most vulnerable in the morning and when I glance at things on social media.
I am most vulnerable when I am alone at night.
Vince, you mentioned about David “not being in align with God’s moral will”. I think that too is an indicator for me that I’m walking in my flesh in those moments and it’s a sign to turn back immediately!
Dave, wonderful thought and identification!
I am most vulnerable when tired and stressed.
yes! 👊🏼 so many men are and when we are worn down and stressed out we are not ready to war with sin!
The battle surely IS in the boredom… in the times alone… especially in the evening when I’m tired
Well put Tom — “boredom”
When I’m alone
When I’m alone
I am most weak to lust whenever exposed to the temptation to look at women and carelessly take a glance.
I like the way you put this here. It makes me think “We do look carelessly” sometimes. I like how you are thinking about this
I struggle most early in the mornings when I’m up alone, or in those times when I am home alone while wife travels, or while I”m traveling. I’ve struggled with an addiction to porn and chat rooms and am working hard to fill my mornings with prayer and focus on spiritual growth. Thanks for being part of my morning daily routine!
Good confession too Mark.
Do me a favor, delete your access to those chat rooms. I am praying God will help you forget how you got to them! 👊🏼👊🏼
Hey Vince,
Thanks and yes, I’ve completely removed any access to websites, chat rooms, or other opportunities for temptation!
I feel most vulnerable whenever I look at something more than I should.
Michael, good word. “length of gaze” might be a trigger for you. “Bounce” those eyes away quicker!
I feel most vulnerable when I am stressed or bored it can happen at any moment day or night
Boredom! Yes, this is a big issue for many men who have already commented. Scroll through and see! 👊🏼
I feel most vulnerable when I am stressed or bored
Anytime I am alone at home
I feel most vulnerable when I’m alone and emotionally suffering.
I feel the most vulnerable mostly around after Dinner and when tired ect…
I’m must vulnerable when my mind is ideal and I’m not being productive
Just as you said… when I am alone and aimless. This also naturally plays into bedtime…
I feel most vulnerable when I am not happy.
Mayowa,
Good word. And good confession. Discouragement can be a trigger!
My vulnerability changes daily on when i am most vulnerable depending on where I am at.
I feel most vulnerable when I’m tired
I feel most vulnerable in the late evening.
I am most vulnerable when I am anxious.
Wow … thx for sharing!!!
When i am bored