What Happens To A Man When Motives Are Called Out?

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But when I saw that their conduct was not in step with the truth of the gospel, I said to Cephas before them all, "If you, though a Jew, live like a Gentile and not like a Jew, how can you force the Gentiles to live like Jews?" Galatians 2:14

So let's back up a little. Paul is leveraging a conflict he had with Peter in Antioch to redirect believers in the churches of Galatia. And because Peter had publically misrepresented the gospel, Paul called him out publically. Ironically, this is what Paul is doing with the believers in Galatia — he's calling them out in a public letter that will circulate publicly. And it seems a little insensitive, but it's not. Here's why.

The motives behind our actions are very tough to see. For example, I will believe what my wife, kids, colleagues, and pastor say until they do something inconsistent with what they say, teach, request, or preach. Then when I sense inconsistency in what they do or say, I will question the motivation behind it.

But here's the tricky part — sometimes we, the inconsistent offender, don't assess our motivation until our actions expose us or someone calls us out for their inconsistency. We sometimes unconsciously say things and do things without giving thought to the integrity between them and the motivations that drove us to action. Therefore someone has to call us out, forcing us to assess the motivation that drove us to take that action.

This is what Paul did with Peter. It's also what he is doing with the Galatians. He wants them to see how these minor inconsistencies, known or unknown, adversely affect the gospel of grace. And that they will need to work hard to unlearn these unhealthy patterns to live out and communicate the gospel of grace effectively.

So here is what I want you for today. I want you to dig deep and address one unbiblical motivation. Just one. Now you might have more than one. You may have a long list. But don't worry about the list. Just focus on the one. And this one unbiblical motivation needs to be one that no one else knows about. It's something only you and God know. And then, I want you to think about how this motivation affects your behavior and how it affects what you say and do. And then I want you to think about what would happen if someone else knew about it — like your wife, kids, colleagues, or pastor. And then I want you to imagine that you get exposed. You get busted and then publically called out for this sinful motivation. And then, I want you to do business with this motivation before it exposes you in the worst way. And then I bet you start believing in the goodness of grace because only God and his grace are good enough to accept a man like you with those kinds of motivations.

ASK THIS: What motivation do you need to address?

DO THIS: Confess it below and let other men pray for you.

PRAY THIS: God, clarify my actions and reveal my motivations. Purify my heart, O God.

PLAY THIS: Purify My Heart - Jeremy Riddle.

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20 thoughts on “What Happens To A Man When Motives Are Called Out?

  1. Keith says:

    Lust and sexual sin, Anger and quick to rebuke others without looking at my own actions. Not taking my leadership seriously and allowing family to lead themselves.

  2. CJB says:

    GUILTY GUILTY GUILTY!!!
    Lust, addiction, anger, judging, not doing what I know is right or doing something I know is wrong. Especially… doing something wrong even after I feel His conviction and I still do it anyway!

    Did I also mention how much I detest being called out? I almost always used to get immediately defensive, angry and turn it around on the other person. Still working on it.

  3. Dale says:

    I want to thank all who admitted to lust and immoral thoughts. I’m in the same boat and it’s a daily struggle and it’s been a long battle for me. That being said I know God is my beacon and strength and my way out of this. Amen to that!!

  4. Alexander Riddle says:

    I need to find my way through this situation and discover what triggers me to act poorly. I have anger issues, confidence issues and overall feel bad about myself. I’m finding motivation to move forward, addressing these issues with the Lord since they have damaged my family and friendship s

  5. David Josker says:

    I sometimes can be a “do as I say guy” instead of a “do as I do guy” and have been called out for it. We all need to be called out for something because we are all sinners. Thank you Jesus for your mercy and grace and thank you Vince for calling us out.

    • Ed says:

      David, I’ve been that guy my whole life. It leads to self loathing and desperation as we become more upset with others as we see our own flaws and project them onto others and end up losing patience and become angry with them instead of addressing our own issues.
      Pray with me as we seek god and not look inwardly at ourselves for strength and finally surrender to God and find help and hope in him… because on our own there’s none

  6. Peter says:

    Being lazy and not exercising and serving my wife as I should. Sleeping in later and going to need later than I should. Father help me to be stronger and healthier for Your kingdom glory.

    • Barry Mayes says:

      Sounds like you are unhappy inside and sexual gratification is a way of being happy – for a few minutes. How about seeking gratification in other things that are outside of relationships e g photography or walking in the countryside and seeing the beauty in God’s creation. Or combine photography and enjoyment of nature or a sunset. Then dig deep at your unhappiness and why sexual gratification has become the solution. God wants you to be happy. He has great plans for you.

  7. Eddie Ackerman says:

    while I have come leaps and bounds farther than I was just a few years ago, I still struggle with lust for women other than my wife and even lust for my wife when she’s not around, tempting me to take care of the lust problem when she’s not around. God, please help me to grow in this area and be less focused on the outside beauty of the women around me and focus on glorifying You for Your grace and the progress you have helped me achieve to date. Amen.

    • Brad Akers says:

      I understand where you are coming from Eddie. I struggle with lust and impure thoughts myself. Something I pray about and deal with on a daily basis. Something I try when those thoughts are invading my head is to say ” What Would Jesus Do!”
      I know he was the perfect sinless man but he came to us as a man of flesh , just like you and I. He relied on God just as we should for anything and everything. We can do this only with his Grace. Thank you Jesus!! When I pray for my issues I will pray for yours as well.
      God is Good, All the Time

      • Corey says:

        Eddie and Brad, this struggle is real for men, I know! I am also a living testimony of Gods grace in this area as he has brought me through this and pornography in my past! It was a ugly part of my life but God is so good guys! Stay strong in HIM! Satan wants you to believe that there’s no way out and that there never will be, it’s all a lie!
        The first step is to ask for forgiveness then believe that we are forgiven, truly! And don’t even think that you won’t do it again because you will and you’ll have to ask for forgiveness again, but that’s the key! We have to learn to take every thought captive every moment of every day! When we do this and seek Christ our minds become focused on HIM and the kingdom of heaven! Then every day we also have to ask that God searches our hearts and shows us anything that’s unclean and to forgive us for it and then we have to receive it as well.

        Daily Thanksgiving and worship along with the above will transform your life and trajectory of it forever! I guarantee it!😉

        Praying for you guys!

    • Corey says:

      Eddie and Brad, this struggle is real for men, I know! I am also a living testimony of Gods grace in this area as he has brought me through this and pornography in my past! It was a ugly part of my life but God is so good guys! Stay strong in HIM! Satan wants you to believe that there’s no way out and that there never will be, it’s all a lie!
      The first step is to ask for forgiveness then believe that we are forgiven, truly! And don’t even think that you won’t do it again because you will and you’ll have to ask for forgiveness again, but that’s the key! We have to learn to take every thought captive every moment of every day! When we do this and seek Christ our minds become focused on HIM and the kingdom of heaven! Then every day we also have to ask that God searches our hearts and shows us anything that’s unclean and to forgive us for it and then we have to receive it as well.

      Daily Thanksgiving and worship along with the above will transform your life and trajectory of it forever! I guarantee it!😉

      Praying for you guys!

    • Trent says:

      I too have these struggles. I will throw my tools in for your use as well. I know these thoughts make us feel shame for many reasons. I say one reason is they are not our true thoughts but seeds put there by our enemy. So when you have a thought speak Mathew 16:23 loudly if you are alone. With feeling. GET THE BEHIND ME! And also try very hard to live Galatians 5:16. If we are so busy walking in the spirit we will have less time and thought process to fulfill the lists of the flesh. Keep fighting and praying for your fellow men, for yourself, and me if you have time! Haha God bless your efforts

    • Dennis says:

      A lot of us struggle with lust more than just about anything else. Because men are visual and the enemy knows how to use that to his advantage. But, if we fight the temptation, we can overcome and that victory is the best. It means being in a constant focus on God and the Kingdom. When those thoughts come about we need to hold them captive and redirect them to prayer and scripture.

  8. Tom Fredericks Sr. says:

    Thanks Pastor Vince. As I have said so many times, I have not yet met and befriended a man who can manufacture a bar of gold from just a nugget. God bless you and sustain you for your faithfulness to us men. Coincidentally, a newly attained father in The Faith called me out yesterday. As always, it hurt. at first. However, it exposed, and then spoke healing to an area in my life that needed and desired it. IF we allow it to shatter our pride, The Truth; The Only Truth can and will set us free indeed. I appreciate YOU so much!🙏🙏

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