Don't Reject This, It's Good


My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.— Proverbs 3:11-12

I can honestly say I hated correction at one point in my life. I hated it. Correction made me feel like I was a complete failure. Therefore I used to interpret all correction negatively. And to add insult to injury, I would privately demonize the people that corrected me, holding a secret grudge about what they said and how they said it.

But at some point, I'm really not sure when I started to see correction differently. I unlearned my hatred of correction and the people who corrected me. Now, this was hard, and it took years, but I discovered that people who corrected me were really correcting me for my benefit. I came to discover that this was even true of people who corrected me poorly — because some people correct others very poorly!

And yet correction, which is here called discipline, is something that's guaranteed to happen in a man's life. Solomon teaches his son that he should not hate discipline or the discipliner. Instead, he should push through the negative emotional event of the discipline and see the love and benefit behind it. And thus, I think Solomon is giving his son advice to help him grow through emotional challenges more quickly so he can have increased benefit from discipline in his life.

Fellas, this is what accelerated spiritual men do. They look at discipline differently. They see it three times. They see it first for the immediate corrections they need to make. They see it second for the benefit it will have in their life given the corrections. They see it third from the perspective of the God behind it all.

So if you encounter correction or discipline today, see it all three times. And then know that God is delighting in you.

ASK THIS: Are you experiencing discipline in your life today?

DO THIS: See it differently — look at it three times.

PRAY THIS: God, take away my hatred of correction and discipline.

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Don't Reject This, It's Good

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6 thoughts on “Don’t Reject This, It’s Good

  1. Eric says:

    I am so thankful to God for putting Vince in my life. These words are the words I have been searching for my whole life.

  2. Cory B says:

    Me as well Vince. My dad was a perfectionist and that was handed down to me. I absolutely hated correction because I felt like a complete failure. No matter how small the correction or even though I know it was said in love. I would be very slow to listen, quick to get angry and quick to speak.
    Now, I don’t always like correction, but I accept it. I do my best to step back and evaluate the correction honestly. When I do, I am usually humbled and grateful. Especially when I know it’s done in love.
    If only I could correct the usually part of that statement.

  3. Ed says:

    I agree with Vince on this one… nobody seeks discipline as it’s never the easy way out. But if we wait and judge any correction on the basis on it being palatable or perfect, we will miss most opportunities to be corrected. God has used a donkey to rebuke an individual or another abusive nation to discipline Israel in the Old Testament and even Jesus described himself as a sword. In my own life if I’m honest, the truth about myself and what needs to change has been barked at me in a very unfriendly and angry way by my own wife in the middle of a fight or under her breath in her own frustration with me. Godly? Not really…. Edifying and supportive? Hardly…. But true and should be considered no matter the messenger or the delivery. We can’t be so stubborn and thin skinned that we dismiss correction and discipline based on our perspective or mood only or it’s likely we will never find a place to move forward from after receiving discipline.
    This is not saying abusive, continual assaults on another persons character or constant belittling of another is acceptable…. Just saying before we completely dismiss the messenger we may be well served to consider the message particularly if it’s not the first time it’s been said or if it’s clearly the truth albeit served up in a cannon or a fire hose.

    • Carl Snider says:

      Ed, I like how you presented your take on discipline. My wife is constantly correcting me but doesn’t ever uplift me or show me appreciation and so I begin to feel inadequate and stupid. Maybe I should try to hear what she is trying to say and pray that God will help her on how she can present it in a way that will not tearing me down and start to uplift me and appreciate me also.

  4. Dennis says:

    When correction and discipline is based on Biblical principals it is good. We need to seek the Holy Spirit to determine of the correction we are giving or receiving is in God’s will.

  5. Roger says:

    When given correctly, the act of discipline is a good gift. It should say “I care enough about you to Not allow you to go down a certain path.” Then, come along side the one receiving the discipline, and walk with them. This is a picture of GODS discipline.

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