Stop The Shame


Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord, nor of me his prisoner, but share in suffering for the gospel by the power of God.—2 Timothy 1:8

I am tired of shame.

I experienced it a lot when I was younger, and for some reason, I thought there would be a day it would come to an end. I thought as I grew, the experiences with shame and how people weaponized it against me would go away. But that hasn't been the case. Even over the last year, there has been more weaponizing of shame in our culture, resulting in increasing fear, silencing, canceling, and dismissing than ever before. And it has brought back these feelings from my youth. But what's interesting about shame is that it might initiate with a person externally, but it echos internally, sometimes over long periods of time. And if I ruminate on it too long, momentary shame turns to feelings of disgust, defeat, and depression, which some will use to control or oppress me. And without a doubt, you have experienced this too. Or even worse, you have used shame to oppress others.

But I am tired of shame. I am tired of it.

In this text, Paul tells his young protege to "not be ashamed." And as we discover in this text, some were ashamed of both Paul and the gospel message.

Here is the context. Paul was now in prison in Rome, probably for the second time, and this repetitive pattern of imprisonment was bringing to bear some shame on Paul, the church, and the message. Because of this, those who oppressed Christians were now using this negative propaganda and weaponizing it against them. Some Christians in response were disassociating and canceling Paul along with his message. But Paul is telling Timothy to stand strong against cancel culture. He wants him to take a stand against this propaganda of shame, as it's nothing to be ashamed of at all. In fact, it was meant to cancel the message and the testimony of the risen Lord.

In our present time, we as have a tremendous opportunity. It's an opportunity to do exactly what Paul is encouraging Timothy to do. To stand against weaponized shame with holy pride. Not a pride in and of ourselves, but pride in the message and our testimony of Jesus Christ. We need to stand tall about what we believe and why we believe it. And we need to learn to suffer through this challenge as weaponized shame and cancel culture increases. So today, tell the unashamed story of how God has worked in you. It's the story of a Lord who has transformed us. And as you tell it, know that there are others out there too who are just as tired as we are, looking for freedom from a world of sin and shame.

ASK THIS: What feeling of shame have you recently experienced? (Share it in the comments below)

DO THIS: Read this verse and believe it. "Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God." Hebrews 12:2

PRAY THIS: God, as Jesus despised the shame, help me to do the same.

PLAY THIS: Mandisa. Shame Off.


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32 thoughts on “Stop The Shame

  1. Robert Miranda says:

    Brother Vince….thank you. 🙌 Recently was scammed for a large amount of money. Felt very ashamed especially in front of my kids. Been in finance for decades. And of all people – ME !👏😃
    Praise God 🙏
    He will restore.

  2. timothy.sorensen says:

    This devo really hit me square… shame has beaten me up for way too long. It has drowned me in a ocean of guilt. I need the Lord to release this shame and deliver me into His loving arms. I long for the day that I don’t feel this pain from the evil ones torment.

  3. Bill McAllister says:

    Great Devo, just curious if you we are done with the book of proverbs, was really enjoying it.

  4. Paul L says:

    Noticing that we have been away from Proverbs for a few days. Praying that all is well with you Vince.

    • Cory B says:

      Hey Paul,
      I think Vince may be on hiatus. I know he has time away scheduled to write his next book. I think these may either be prerecorded or older devos.

  5. Chris says:

    Love this message! When we lived in Abu Dhabi shame was a huge part of Islamic culture and how they corrected behavior. By seeing how perverted shame is when used in full effect by an entire people made me see how I have been using it also.
    It disgust me and I’m glad you revealed another truth that I struggle with but do not fully understand still.

  6. gary says:

    Rejoice and be glad in the glory of the day that God has made.

    2 Thessalonians 1:7
    And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels…

    John 14:27
    Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

  7. Eddie Ackerman says:

    I have been dealing with shame because I am a hypocrite. I told my kids to be careful with our youngest child, 6 months, but I still occasionally slip and end up not preventing him from getting hurt.

  8. Chris says:

    I’ve been having very rough time with my writing partner. I created a sitcom based on my life experiences (A God given dream) and I brought this guy on for his writing and t.v. knowledge. He was burned before and lately has been (I feel) taking it out on me and he’s even gone a step further. He’s taken control by making decisions without me and even making decisions about me! Tension has increased and he has a way of spinning things around on me. He’s crossed the line and I used to handle before with aggression and vengeance. Now back on my journey with God and a family man, I can’t respond that way anymore. I have mentioned more than once about my faith and my God given dream with no real response from him. I wonder If God is getting my attention with this to stay focused and get back on track with my life and my vices. I now wonder if God maybe want’s to use me to reach Dan’s (my co-writers) heart??? I never feel “ashamed” when I speak of the Lord now but… I don’t walk down the street yelling “Jesus Loves You” either. Pray that I can reach Dan’s heart and allow him to release those demons of past and refocus on our partnership and the show.

  9. Michael McClain says:

    The world is trying to shame us into believing that following the commands of the Bible makes us intolerant. It tells us that ‘good is subjective and as long as somebody is okay with themselves and their lives, than it’s all fine. We need to remember that there are some black and white rules for our lives and we need to hold ourselves and those around us to Jesus’ standard.

  10. Cory B says:

    The feeling of never being good enough.
    As a kid growing up I mostly heard, “that was a good job, except you should’ve….”
    I took that to heart and turned into a perfectionist. And as a perfectionist, every time someone calls me out, I see it as a personal attack, feel shame and immediately want to fight back.
    Today I work on realizing nothing is perfect and good is usually good enough. Most people mean well so don’t assume the worst and then be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.

  11. Danny Leo says:

    I want to be more Bold in sharing my faith… like its 2nd nature, at times, I pause, and then I wonder why I paused! I love this line from the devo “tell the unashamed story of how God has worked in you.” Encouraged by this today!

  12. Dennis says:

    I have watched shame silence the church when we need to stand up and be heard as this spirtual battle rages on.

  13. Dave Benson says:

    As we look at the wave recently of cancel culture and the worldly weapons used to shame us followers, it can at times seems unsurmountable and it perhaps looked like this for Joshua. But he heard the word from the Lord and knew He was with him and turned his challenges in to victories. Let the opportunities abound!

  14. Lynn says:

    The shame/sorrow that people who don’t hear and listen to God’s word make me feel because of my conviction to rise up and follow His word.

  15. Ken McClatchey says:

    Gen 2:25 – “the man and his wife were both naked and not ashamed”
    Shame entered God’s creation through sin, it is a powerful tool of Satan against mankind but our Lord Jesus Christ has defeated the works and power of Satan over mankind. Embrace the finished work of His cross, God has provided us with the power and authority of the Holy Spirit (who presently restrains Satan in this world), remember shame is an illusion from the father of lies.
    Walk in the Light of our Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 🙏🙏

  16. Eric says:

    Not so much shame as just the lack of conviction to step out of my comfort zone when there is an opportunity to further the Lord’s work. Not always but I’d like to get better at having the courage to “Step Out” more often.

  17. GTT says:

    My sin, but…
    2 Corinthians 5:17
    17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 
    2 Corinthians 5:17.

  18. Sam says:

    My shame is for my personal short cummings in my sin. But I am and had many blessings and can’t ever remember being ashamed of my savior and my willingness to share it with everyone.

  19. Brian says:

    I use shame. I feel control from others based on shame or thought of shame. To reject shame and live in grace and in the knowledge of Christ is what I want to convey to others. I pray I learn more of Him.

  20. Tom MacLeod says:

    Whenever you stand for light those who live in darkness attack and try to put out the light. As I hid the Word in my heart the darkness is pushed out of my life. It is exposed. Then I am able to stand against the darkness and it flees before the Light

  21. Ryan says:

    I’m a gas lighter. My mom is and was and passed that down to us. Only recently did I realize this. Feels terrible. But the healing has begun, both in me and my wife. God is good.

    • Will says:

      Lord help me be free of shame for things that you have released me from, and forgive me for when I have used shame against my children or others in my life. May I recognize these moments and stop to ask for forgiveness from my children.

  22. Ed says:

    Shame is removed when guilt is removed… Romans 8-1… “therefore there is no condemnation for those IN CHRIST JESUS”
    Keep your eyes on Christ Jesus and live under the covering of his precious shed blood and the waves of this world and the accusations of Satan become much smaller.
    The message of the cross and it’s value to us as Christians are truly awesome. When Christ said “it is finished” it included death to condemnation and guilt that results in shame. I’ve wallowed in my fair share of shame and regret on my own life including just this week. Stay all in and let’s encourage each other to stand strong in the power we have in Christ Jesus

  23. Tom says:

    Last night in Community Group we studied Nehemiah 8. I enjoy knowing God is greater than my sin. I no longer need to weep for my shame. I praise Him for all the provisions, grave, love, mercy, and forgiveness – daily.

  24. Darin Palmer says:

    Shame is something that the dark one had used in me for a very long time! No more, the light of God gets me through each and every day.

  25. Rusty Moore says:

    Shame has always been the way the devil has used to keep me from being proud of being a sinner and rejoicing in the power of grace, love and mercy of Jesus Christ.