Traveling Alone Is Not An Option


Sopater the Berean, son of Pyrrhus, accompanied him; and of the Thessalonians, Aristarchus and Secundus; and Gaius of Derbe, and Timothy; and the Asians, Tychicus and Trophimus. These went on ahead and were waiting for us at Troas, but we sailed away from Philippi after the days of Unleavened Bread, and in five days we came to them at Troas, where we stayed for seven days. — Acts 20:4-6

Now, this may look like a random list of men. But it's not. It is seven strategic men traveling with Paul from three different areas. Sopater, Aristarchus, and Secundus were three representatives from Macedonian churches. Gaius and Timothy were two representatives from southern Galatian churches. Tychicus and Trophimus were two representatives from Asian churches. And the reason they were traveling with Paul, the eighth man of the group, was because Paul had a large amount of money he was bringing to the church in Jerusalem.

There are two great lessons here for men.

First, men need other men for protection from external enemies. We need protection because there are always those who want to oppose us. There are predators out there who seek to inflict harm on men who travel alone. Yet when we travel together, external threats are minimized — not eliminated, but definitely diminished. Second, men need other men for protection from internal enemies. The true enemy we all fight is born in the heart of man. It is not always external, as if it never happens to the follower. Selfishness and sin can find their way even into a devout believer's heart. But when we have other traveling compansions around us, we have men to help us meditate and redirect our selfishness and sin, hopefully before it becomes an external threat.

Paul does something here we should all do. He takes positive, proactive spiritual action by putting himself in the company of other men to protect himself from both of these threats — internal and external.

So today, if you don't have a Christian traveling companion in this life, you need to get one. I would address this immediately. And here is a step you could take. Take another brother, you know, out to lunch this week. Pay for his meal and pick his brain for some advice in an area that is presently challenging for you. And discover the value of brotherhood. One that protects you from the enemy without and the enemy within.

ASK THIS: Who is someone you could take to lunch this week that you could learn from?

DO THIS: Set up a meeting.

PRAY THIS: God, I confess I have been doing life alone. And I am living unprotected. Bring a divine relationship of protection into my life.

PLAY THIS: Jesus My Brother — Chris Tofilon


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Traveling Alone Is Not An Option

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23 thoughts on “Traveling Alone Is Not An Option

  1. Thom says:

    Is there anyone in the southern part of the Twin Cities looking to brother up? I am in need of one. Thom

  2. Michael Elfrank says:

    This is why we at Hillsboro Christian Church
    have a men’s fellowship and study time on Wednesday evenings, and why each f us have chosen n accountability partner. There are three different men I partner with, and each has been a huge blessing to me. Norm, who I’ve partnered with since 1999, Jerry, from our men’s group, and Joe, who connected with me in the past few months.

  3. Jason says:

    Hi Vince,

    While I am physically travelling today (sitting at the airport) awaiting my coworker and friend to join me I also have a mentor that I trust. I do find being married to my best friend is a wonderful gift from God. She is great and I am very thankful and in love with her but sometimes it nice to just work with another guy and talk about the work… time to board.

  4. Mike Gole says:

    brotherhood is needed in every mans life!
    It took the majority of my “lone wolf life” to learn this. Thankfully, our Father has guided my steps to brothers who help make me better every day! Vince is among those brothers.

  5. Rich Thomas says:

    Hey guys, anyone in the Twin Ports area that needs a brother? I would be happy to sit down with you. Just reach out here.

  6. Jack Dellinger says:

    Amen Vince. I travel with a band of brothers that are armed and dangerous. We are quick to come to the rescue of one another. We are constantly adding to our arsenal to fight against both the internal and external enemy. We also look for opportunities to protect and free other men.

    Great devo!

  7. Trent says:

    I am socially awkward and have no friends. I am so busy trying to pay the bills and keep the place running that I haven’t the time to even go out to eat with my wife, let alone a brother. I know men at my church that would be there for me in a heart beat but I even if I had the time, I cannot see going to lunch or something. I know it is not how life is supposed to be but it just seems to work best for me to go it alone.

    • Jack Dellinger says:

      I understand your feelings. I lived like that for a long time. While I am in no position to judge your situation but I will share what I found out about myself. My loneness was coming from me believing a lie, specifically that no one really liked me. I had to repent of believing that lie and replace that belief that there were men who honored Christ’s second commandment to love one another.

      I don’t get from your story that my story specifically applies to you, but I would encourage you to look a little closer at your beliefs. While you say it is best for you to go it alone, I don’t see you projecting a lot of joy from the solo life. Maybe I am missing something.

      • Trent says:

        Thank you for sharing. I think I can learn something from everyone’s situation, identical to mine or not. I have some serious issues with myself that need to be lined out. I am getting there. Lets just say I spent 25ish years making a tangled mess of my life (alcohol and lust mainly) so it is safe to say the effects and consequences will not disappear overnight. I do try to remind myself, however, that forgiveness is that quick and I need to try to forgive myself as well and leave it behind. I feel like I need to try to leave the guilt back there with the bad choices and move on. Sober date 5/8/17. Praise God. People are still shocked today that I got sober and have remained that way so long. Only by His strength and patience and grace.

        • Jack Dellinger says:

          Trent, you are on the right track, I commend your progress. When I come clean with my problems in front of other men, I was sure they would avoid me like the plague. Just the opposite happened they embraced me in love. It is important that you find men who you trust that will extend grace to you. Keep pursuing the course you are on.

    • James says:

      Hey Trent – we are never completely alone. Our Heavenly Father is always there for us. I pray for this season of your life to shift to one with some margin that will allow you just a small amount of time to connect with other men. Maybe it’s early morning coffee instead?

      • Trent says:

        Thank you. I am getting there. Sorting out my life and cleaning my mess 1 day at a time. In case you do not read my response above …(Sober since 5/8/17 PRAISE GOD!)

    • Michael B says:

      Trent, we have not met but I am your brother in Christ. I am praying for you now each morning. I am very sorry about what you are experiencing right now. Don’t give up your faith in God. This season will pass. You will persevere and be stronger as a result. You are not alone in your struggles. I have been in a very similar place that you have described. Somehow God worked a few miracles and came through the fire. You will too. Keep your faith strong. Keep loving your family. Keep doing The Next Right Thing each day.

      • Trent says:

        Thank you kindly. I have come very far when most everyone had counted me down and out. I full well intend to continue progressing and growing until the good Lord calls me home. Only God knows and time will tell what my life will look like by then. God bless all of you for your time and thoughts and prayers for all your fellow men. God is good. Spread the word.

      • Trent says:

        I suppose it is also worth mentioning that I have struggles and I am a fixer so I focus on what is broken. But I have SOOOO much to be thankful for as well. What ever is good what ever is pure what ever is lovely….. Praise God for my family, a good job, a church home, a roof, food on the table, mental and physical ability to help others, a church home just a few miles from my home and my sobriety. Think on these things and I/one will see I am richly blessed. Forgive me for painting my blessings in a negative light. God bless you and yours. We are all gonna make it!

    • John says:

      Can I be that brother? We don’t have to meet for lunch or coffee, there is a thing we all carry around, it’s called a cell phone. While you are driving to or from work can that be your/my “lunch” that Vince threw out there? If this is something you desire and feel God wants you to respond to, please respond and I will give you my phone number.
      God Bless

      • Trent says:

        God bless you for your willingness and compassion. I will get there 1 day, but at this point it feels more like 1 more stressor for me to worry about rather than a release. I really feel my focus for now is on getting my wife and I threw raising these last 2 kids (12 &13) and of course giving them the best start on life I can. For now, this devotional and board provides me with the amount of interaction I need/am comfortable with. Thank you all. I only hope I can be as much a blessing here as you all are to me. Thank you again for your offer and I pray God has a treasure in heaven waiting for you because of it. Keep on, my good man. Keep on…

        • Cory B says:

          God loves you Trent! I think you just did it and didn’t even realize it. You reached out to a bunch of likeminded brothers and admitted a weakness. It doesn’t get much more brave and courageous than that. I hope you continue to reach out on this forum. As you can see, you have a lot of supporters and men willing to help. We’re all men trying to be the best version of ourselves and we all come up short from time to time. I’m a sober brother too. If you ever feel a nudge, I pray you will show the same courage and reach out.

          • Trent says:

            Thank you so much. Also, it is easier here because I can think about what I have to say and not get red faced and flustered by getting tongue tied or long awkward silence LOL

          • Cory B says:

            I get that 100%. I’m much more articulate when I can put it in writing. I met a man on here with similar issues. He started just like. Slow and simple and now he is really flourishing. We email every couple weeks to check in and have some accountability. Keep up the good work! 🙏❤️

  8. Mark says:

    Thanks Vince for reminding all men to have a brother or brothers and to not travel this life alone. God has been very good to me by giving me several brothers, one in particular. I’ve mentioned him before, we are brothers in Christ, and while we both have strayed from the Lord, and we share the sins of lust and sexual impurity, we have formed a bond that is tighter than it’s ever been. We share this devotional daily, we pray for each other daily, and we’ve established the “iron sharpening iron” bond where we hold each other accountable and push each other to be better, more complete Godly men. It is truly a gift from God and he’s doing wonderful things in our lives – because we do not travel alone, we tried that and it didn’t work. To the other men here – if you don’t have a brother, a travel companion, Vince is right – find one, I assure you, you’ll both be blessed!

    • Jesse S says:

      Great message today Vince! Traveling this journey called life with other Brothers has not only helped me grow but other Men grow as well. Taking these positive proactive steps thru a faithful life like how I’m volunteering helping a church remodel today, lunch & helping a brother yesterday, and a Small Group Men’s Bible Study tomorrow after lunch; helps minimize external threats as well as directs positive Christian actions as the Lord looks over us guiding and protecting us in many ways as we are blessed. For this I give thanks and have many ways to be greatful.

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