When You Feel Like A Failure
“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us."—Romans 5:3-5
Yep, you've done it again. You've failed. At least you feel that way. And if you're like most men, you spend a lot of time privately shaming yourself about your failure. You know the right thing to do, get back up on the horse you fell off and do it again, but in the quietness of your mind, you hear the self-talk of regret, defeat, and disappointment—and the inevitable depression that goes with it.
For a moment, notice all the blessings in the text that come from failure. "Endurance" that will help you build strength and spiritual muscle. "Character" that increases mental and moral strength for future challenges. "Hope" that produces an expectation for something new and better. Perhaps part of the problem is focusing on the invalidating thoughts and feelings and not the opportunity in the failure? And this is why Paul says, "rejoice in your sufferings." Brother, you've got a lot to look forward to today. Don't listen to the negative self-talk; hear the truth, "God loves you."
DO THIS: See your opportunity and life in Christ, not exclusively in light of your failure.
PRAYER: God, may I not listen to the voice of shame in my failure. You are my victory.