Why Isn't God Blessing Me?

And this second thing you do. You cover the Lord's altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. —  Malachi 2:13-15

Going back to yesterday's message, God's first issue with his people is that they have been unfaithful to him. They have committed spiritual adultery. Because spiritual idolatry leads to spiritual adultery, this violates the first of the Ten Commandments God gave to his people. "You shall have no other gods before me." But they were not faithful to him. They have been entertaining other gods. Thus they are spiritual adulterers.

But here, God brings up the second issue — it's adultery in marriage. It appears God's people cannot get either relationship right. Their vertical relationship with God or their horizontal relationships with people. Men in this situation are sleeping around with other women and marrying unbelieving women. They were in relationships we would call "unequally yoked." Which was off-limits. This was well-known instruction given by God way back in Deuteronomy 7. But over time, they conceded to cultural norms and ignored another one of God's Ten Commandments (specifically #7), and dismissed God's marital covenant.

I don't know why we don't talk about this more in the church and speak more firmly about it, but God does not permit the Old or New Testament for a believing man to marry an unbelieving woman or vice-versa. The basis of this principle can definitely be seen in Deuteronomy 7 but is also present in 2 Corinthians 6:14. It reads:

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? — 2 Corinthians 6:14.

The basis of this principle, in context, is speaking to ministry relationships and is essential to apply to all of our relationships. This is especially applicable to marriage because marriage is not a contract between two people. Marriage is a spiritual covenant made with God by two people. It's a spiritual commitment that cannot be broken, changed, or adapted. And it is designed to work best when upheld by two people, a man, and a woman, who share common values and beliefs, which leads to the best results.

We have to remember that marriage was God's idea. It was not man's idea. God created man and woman and brought them together. He designed them for relationship and established the covenant, and he gets to decide the rules. His plan is best. Not your plan. And here's the kicker. God blesses his plan, not your plan, which is the issue these believers have with God. They want God to bless their plan. But he's not going to do it. They are crying, weeping, and groaning on the altar because God isn't blessing their plans. And essentially, God says this. "If you want your plan, you can't have my blessings. Your plan, your blessings. My plan, my blessings."

This gives us a very good answer to why sometimes we are not experiencing spiritual blessings. It could be because we are asking for him to bless our plan. And he's not going to do that. So today, if you are not following his plan, make adjustments because God does provide spiritual blessings to those who follow his plan.

ASK THIS: Is there an adjustment you need to make today?

DO THIS: Renew your covenant with God and adjust your plans to his.

PRAY THIS: God, I want your way, not my way.


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Marriage is a Trinitarian relationship. The best representation of the Trinity in this world. Man, Woman, God. It’s sacred and should be treated as such. So thankful for Jesus and forgiveness and repentance because let’s face it, there may be a few challenges. 😅

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21

This I believe is the secret to a successful marriage.

David Josker

So true. Thanks Vince, keep up the good work.
Blessings to all!

Bob Smotherman

Great preaching point!

Tom F. Sr.

Excellent. Powerful. Truth! Thanks Pastor Vince!


I would have less issue following God’s plan if He would tell me what it is rather than me trying to guess. Feels alot like a game sometimes and I tire quickly of games. More quickly when I am constantly the loser.

Tom F. Sr.

God speaks to us primarily from and through His word. Commit to spending MORE time in the Scriptures: reading, meditating on, and memorizing His instructions and promises, even if other things must go. You will then begin to experience the presence of God more tangibly and understand His plans and intentions for your life! 🙏🙏


Thanks for the encouragement and direction. I think He also speaks to us through brothers. (Thank you btw for acting on His instruction) Thus reinforcing the fact that we must fight together and not recede to the woods to hide and die alone. I sometimes forget that we all have different duties and some are simple and seemingly unimportant from my earthly perspective. By faith alone, and not sight or reason or “intelligence”, I must keep on fighting and living and working. I have good days and bad. I am tuff. On the bad just give it to me straight. “QUIT CRYING AND GET TO WORK!” I can take it lol. Bless you. Fight on!


Vince this is awesome insight into the confusion of a Christian trying to use worldly concepts to gain blessings and then wondering why it is not working. I see this all the time.


Well said ! God’s blessings on you today .


When I’m having problems getting along with my wife, I can usually trace it back to my relationship with God. Apologizing to her and repenting to God in her presence goes a long way in righting our relationship. I don’t know if this works for adultery. But I do know that practicing this checks some thoughts that could lead to adultery.

Men, most of our problems, faith, family, finance, and fun, can be traced back to a poor vertical relationship with our Heavenly Father.

Cory D

Hey Jack you are exactly right. I especially love the ” 4 F’s” you listed. Specifically if we don’t follow the order of those words we are headed for trouble. If we keep faith first, men will have much less trouble with the other three. Thanks for the reminder!

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